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48 responses to “The Differences Between Bottom, Masochist, Submissive and Slave”

  1. pencildick

    i consider myself submissive and masochistic. i enjoy being told what to do and being obediant. Butt what i really enjoy is being verbally insulted and abused and treated like shit thru e-mail or texting or just seeing it in print. i have neveer heard of anyone else loveing this and been shown less that zero respect.
    if anyone knows of places or people that are into this kinda thing please send them my way.

    1. Yessir

      Try Fetlife.com. It is exactly what you are looking for.

  2. Stella Omega

    Let me suggest a clarification regarding bottoming and topping; the bottom is not necessarily the “lower” role.

    Rather, the bottom is the person being done unto, receiving sensation, or being restrained. The top is the person giving sensation, doing unto, tying the rope.

    It’s perfectly possible for a dominant to enjoy sensation and for a submissive to give the sensation that the dominant requires.

    This confusion is a problem, especially for women– so many of us have never separated our inward-pointing sexuality from the societal roles. We think that to receive a penis means we’ve submitted. It isn’t always true. Women, especially, may be masochists, or bottoms in other ways, on their own terms. I ask any woman looking at submission to think about what that means to her, and to re-examine her needs in another direction. This can save a lot of grief later on as a woman begins to come into her own and her erstwhile Dom fights against the changes– and those women who are submissive will know for sure that’s what we are.

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