Hi! I am rather new to all this but I would like to attend my first munch... The only problem I seem to have is, I'm really shy when it comes to meeting new people and I'm also new to where I am living and I don't know anyone in the BDSM world, so I would be going to this munch alone and as much as I want to go the idea of going alone makes me not want to just as much. I don't know what to do...I want to go but I'm terrified as well because I won't know a single soul.
Hello dear reader,
Congrats on wanting to explore the BDSM community in your area. Stepping out to meet people is a scary endeavor no matter the reason. Add to it your new-found kinky desires and it can make you even shyer than you are.
A lot of people are shy with meeting new people, so you aren't alone and others have made it through similar challenges. You can do it too!
First, make yourself known on the group's website and discussion forum. Start participating from the comfort of your own home until you get to know some of the people who will be at the munches they host.
Once you are more comfortable see if you can meet the host on their own a few days before the munch for coffee or something. Of the munch hosts that I know, all of them are open to doing that to help with nerves from new people. They can answer some of your questions and will often agree to meet you outside the place on munch day so you can walk in together.
In the least, you will know one person when you walk into the munch that day. It can be the turning point to your new community involvement. Don't let shyness keep you from your new life!
If you'd like more information about what to expect from a munch pick up my guide " Your First Munch".