The Challenge of Learning Anticipatory Service: Making Mistakes

At the furthest reaches of proactive service resides “anticipatory service.” There are many challenges faced by servants who aspire towards successful anticipatory service.

Can You Be a Boss and a Submissive?

For those in-charge, controlling, decision-making people who recognize that they’re submissive, it’s not that you can or will (or should) submit to just anyone. We submit to the person who earns our trust and confidence. Being in control of one thing does not mean we can’t surrender to someone in our relationships.

Getting Started with Exploring Erotic Hypnosis

The idea of hypnotism always frightened me a little. I never thought it was entertaining to watch someone go up on stage and act like a chicken or in some other humiliating way. My Master, however, was intrigued by the idea of using hypnotism in our M/s relationship. I have always felt somewhat self-conscious with role playing and acting out fantasies, so Master thought of hypnotism as a way to relax me and make me feel less self-conscious.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

5 Ways to Reset Your "Feel Submissive" Button

Submission - it's hard work. For the 24/7 types it's an all the time thing. So what happens if you wake up one day and you don't feel like submitting?

A Day in the Life: fuzzyP

This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series.

The Controversy of Safe Words during Punishment

Receiving punishment without having a safe word in place isn’t for everyone.

Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community

I realized there was a lot out there I was missing and how important it was to get involved in the local groups and to have mentors and other s-types that I could talk to about things.

How to Keep Yourself From Being Overwhelmed in a Service Dynamic

Service in a power exchange dynamic can be a very intense and involved experience, especially when you’re in a 24/7 dynamic and “always on.”

31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Start Where You Are

Baby steps are the key to successful, repeatable changes and developing new routines.