Solo-Coaching: Prioritize Your Submissive Goals With a 4-Box Matrix System

It’s very easy to get overwhelmed and have far too much to do with what feels like no time to do it. When searching for a way to help myself figure out how to organize my tasks so that I know how to prioritize them I came across 2 methods that work well.

The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

Service is any activity or function that you fill to make your dominant partner's life easier. This could be as simple as preparing their coffee, laying out their clothes for them or performing domestic chores. Yes, it does include the play and sex aspects of some relationships, but not all of them are wired this way.

Finding Domesticity In You

Chores just happen to be the reality of a submissive sometimes

Domesticity: The Bathroom

I want to walk you through cleaning and maintaining a tidy bathroom. I feel that cleanliness in the bathroom shows guests how important cleanliness is in your home and your own person. While I currently don't have much more than a hallway sized bathroom with a shower at the end of it, one day I do hope to have a pleasant and inviting retreat for weary bodies.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

My Struggle with Accepting Domestic Service as Service

What makes what I do service? It's all in the attitude really. Sure I could trudge around scrubbing and cleaning with a frown on my face, looking like I had been made to do this or that and not happy at all. Or I could find the peace in it.

A Day in the Life: lunaKM

The day in the life of lunaKM. Part of the Day in the Life Series.

Submissive Advent - Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

As submissives we often forget that helping others also feeds our need to submit.

Creating Realistic Submissive Goals Sets You Up for Success

Setting goals is a great way to improve your lifestyle, whether you’re a single submissive or in a relationship.

31 Days To Better Domestic Service: FLYing with FlyLady.net

Flylady can help you learn how to make cleaning a fun routine! Get dressed to your shoes and shine your sink, just to get started on the way.