It is a scary proposition to approach your partner who may be oblivious to your new desires about wanting to add a bit or a lot of kink to your relationship. Whatever they decide it’s up to you on how you proceed. If they want to give it a try – go ahead! If they are far from interested you still have avenues available to you. It doesn’t automatically mean the end of the relationship.
Read The Series | Find SimilarApplying mentoring to a BDSM context a mentor is someone that guides and advises a newbie on what to expect, things they might want learn and other items. I believe a mentor should be on the same level as you. There are many opinions out there, but common sense advice can be found in the following series of articles about mentors.
Read The Series | Find SimilarNo matter how you go about it, setting realistic goals and then working towards success is a step by step process. You have the tools available to make changes in your life if you want them. It doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Treat them like anything else in your life worth doing and you can make it. Use the resources below to make the progress stick.
Read The Series | Find SimilarNot long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.
Read The Series | Find SimilarSlaveCraft is a great book, but not for the novice. The author writes for the submissive or slave who may already have experience and thus understand the skills and tools that will help deepen their surrender.
Read The Review | Find SimilarThe following list of links are my suggestions on key posts on the topic of bruise care and aftercare from my archives. I hope you find them to be useful.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHere is a wide variety of information sources for those who are littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe internet has opened you up to a world of possibility - including finding other kinky groups and people! Here's how you can collect a list of local meet-ups, groups, and interested persons.
Read The Article | Find SimilarLet's do an activity to figure out how a personal journal can help you in your submissive development.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHow you use quotes when journaling can lead you to revelations about your own life. It's more than simply writing the quote in your journal. It's about reflecting on the meaning or idea behind it and then applying it.
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