I feel very lucky to have gotten the chance to read Michelle Fegatofi’s book “ Unveiled-The Secret Submissive Within”. If the author’s name sounds familiar it’s probably because of her personal blog BDSM Unveiled. She started her blog back in November 2012 and since then has written on a large variety of topics to help those who are new and even not so new in the lifestyle. Like Submissive Guide, the site is full of wonderful information and I have greatly enjoyed her writings.
Like a lot of books, “Unveiled-The Secret Submissive Within” is geared towards beginning submissives and the first few chapters are basic information, what is BDSM, what some of the symbolism means, and some very important aspects of the lifestyle like what the difference between BDSM and abuse and key factors that makes a successful relationship work such as communication, trust, honesty, and respect.
She also has a chapter titled “Am I Submissive?” and I have to admit, I think it is my favorite chapter in the entire book. The reason why I say this is because she covers everything, the feelings and thought process of what goes on when one first experiences those new feelings of submission. She says there will be errors in judgment(been there), bad decisions(done that), and possible harm(have the t-shirt)both mentally and physically that can happen. I love that she put this in there because I have yet to talk to anyone, submissive or slave who hasn’t made some not so bright decisions early on in their journey. Also in this chapter, she talks about the new challenges that arise once you find your dominant because, well, there are many. A favorite line from this chapter: “You will discover that a submissive’s life is filled with questions and doubts followed by moments of crystal clarity of purpose.” So rather fitting and such truth in a single sentence.
In later chapters, she covers a wide variety of topics that include the different types of submissives that are out there, different kind of dominants, desirable and undesirable traits that submissives can have, safety measures, how to set up a meeting with a potential dominant, common rules and protocols for submissives and slaves, different slave positions, as well as a lot of other basic and good information, including how to recharge your submissive batteries and meditation.
As I was reading this book, there were so many passages I ended up highlighting because they really spoke to me and are really good advice and things that any submissive or slave needs to hear. Like I said, even though this book is geared towards novices in the lifestyle, even those who have been around awhile can take a lot of knowledge from the later chapters in the book that discuss body image and the “perfect submissive” myth.
I really did enjoy reading this book. It is a lot of practical information that any beginner needs to know. Michelle expresses everything in a very down to Earth fashion which is always a great way to make a connection and bond with the readers. I do highly recommend to anyone who is new in the lifestyle to check out “Unveiled-The Secret Submissive Within”.
Tequila R’s Rating
: 8/10 Paperback: 186 Pages Publisher: lulu.com(October 19, 2013) Language: English ISBN-10: 1304281787