A Submissive's Collection of Domestic Service Resources

Quite an extensive list of Domestic Service resources and links for any submissive looking to enhance that part of their service. Links from this site, the internet, FetLife and more.

What is Transactional Service?

When I first think of transactional service I think of a business transaction. Someone pays you for a service and you provide that service. Transactional service for the submissive is very much the same. You do something for your Dominant and in return you get something.

Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic

Using my experience as a service submissive, I'd like to share what non-sexual service is and help you figure out if service is something you want to explore. I'll talk about a few different styles of service you could learn. Then we'll cover how you can start adding aspects of service into your relationship.

Creating a Personal Submissive Protocol

A personal protocol helps to organize your life and help you reach your goals. It's built with a checks and balances system so that you stay on track. I would like to encourage you to consider developing some personal protocols of your own.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

How To Be Submissive Without a Dominant

Unlike the fact that you can't be a wife without a husband, being submissive isn't a title. Either you have it in your or you don't. I am submissive and thrive in situations where I can serve - no matter where that occurs.

A Slave's Longing - Not Quite Frenzy

A longing is not a frenzy, though it's quite possible that the feeling of yearning can lead to a frenzy. But what I feel in the moments when I experience a deep longing for what isn't there is a mixture of emotions

Why A Punishment Dynamic May be Just What You Need

Thinking about your current situation and how you manage your life right now, do you think you would benefit from a punishment dynamic?