A common mistake that many submissives make is to assume that giving up control also means giving up the responsibility to themselves and to the situation. A submissive shares equal responsibility for any consequences - good or bad - that occur as a result of consensual play or activities.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI've read recently on a forum where a submissive is explaining her life and how she struggles with one thing or another. Someone commented that they must not be submissive enough and that opened the gateway for competition. From people saying that they wouldn't behave that way, or a good submissive would do this or that it's all saying (even if it might not be true) that I'm better than you are because I know the answer. As if there were just one answer to begin with.
Read The Article | Find Similarnot everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a munch or party and be faced with the question “What are you into?” The newbie who likes sensual play or enjoys service may feel that s/he is not quite living up to the expectations of the lifestyle.
Read The Article | Find SimilarNo one should judge you for how you want to live your life (and if they do then they are the ones in the wrong). So, imagine my wonderment when early on in my personal development I encountered submissives and slaves that say they have a slave heart and they have a heart to serve. Or better yet, that you have to have a slave heart in order to serve. They went on to say that they don't have to work on their submission, that it comes from the heart and is easy for them.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI think there are a few characteristics that may exist in common, a lot of which are often found in a good 'normal' relationship too!
Read The Article | Find SimilarA safe call is something that you may never need to use but should be there anyway. Like car insurance. It's there in the case of an accident. It's not like you plan on getting into an accident so you get insurance. It's the other way around. A safe call is your backup plan, your safety net. In fact, it could very well save your life. Are you in good hands?
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. The good thing, burnout isn’t a permanent problem.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt’s hard to be a little in today’s society. So many people, even those within the lifestyle, don’t understand the Daddy/little dynamic. They don’t try either.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere’s nothing cute at all in being a territorial/jealous slave. That’s a fact. Yet, so many suffer from this affliction – sounds dramatic, but truly it’s definitely fitting.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHe's in love with me as well but I'm not so sure that I'm what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. As his submissive /slave, is it wrong for me to decide this for him? Tell him that I'm no longer what he needs. Or do I sit back and watch the man I love, my Master, struggle internally?
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