Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

What's My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

There are days where my biological age kinda screws with my little age. This is something that all littles go through.

Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 1: Skin Care

Giving back to your skin for all it does for you is a first, and very important step in learning to appreciate your body for what it is and building up your self-esteem.

BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

When you’re a parent, the switch between roles is more frequent and more exhausting. It’s important to realize, though, that it’s normal, and with a few tips and tricks, you can handle the transitions between submissive life and parenting life.

BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

Over the past few years, Kayla found certain things help her feel submissive, enjoy kinky sex, and even have BDSM scenes as a parent. Here's some tips for your own playtime.

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

Submitting While One of You is Sick

One of the strangest full time submitting challenges that I’ve found is dealing with your role as a submissive when either you or your Dom is ill. So how do you cope when one of you is ill?

7 Tips for Handling Holiday Stress

For many out there, the holidays aren’t the most wonderful time of the year. Take a look at 7 helpful tips and tricks you can use to overcome stress and depression during the holidays.

BDSM How To: Wax Play

A fantastic little how to get started with Wax Play! Important points include candle temperature and what you need to get going with your own scene.

What To Do When You’re Unhappy in Your D/s Relationship

How to effect change when your D/s relationship leaves your unfulfilled, confused and miserable starts with communication. But Kayla has more advice for you if that doesn't work.