Why Writing a Letter To Your Past Self Will Help You When Your Struggling in Submission

Writing a letter to your future self is a common journaling practice to help you see how happy you are in the present moment, but the writing a letter to your past self is equally helpful.

Without His Collar: How This Happened and What I’m Learning About Myself

My submission stopped being something I did for me. It all began to become what he wanted and how he wanted it. My life stopped being mine and more and more a shadow of his. I want to be submissive. I want to be KnyghtMare’s submissive. Only time will tell.

Feeling Like a Failure - The Crash and Burn of a Slave: A Personal Story

My life was spiraling out of control. It’s been over 18 months and I’m still not back to the sense of joy in my submission I used to have. I’m getting there but I feel like a failure. It has come back pretty strongly and I’m relearning who I am and who I want to be this time around.

10 Organization and Home Management Websites for the Busy Submissive

Sometimes you just need that extra bit of help out of your day or want to have all the tips and tricks on a certain activity. I have pulled together some of the best websites out there that will help you get through your difficult day in a breeze.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Super-Ego And The Good Girl

How many times have you heard a submissive say how he/she loves to be told they are a "good girl/boy" by their dominant? Yet how many times have any of them been able to pin point the why of the effect it has on them? I have a theory.

A Day in the Life: nan{SL}

This is an entry in the ongoing series where we take a look at one day in the life of submissives and slaves just like you. {nan}SL shares a snapshot of here day here.

Adjusting to Stay at Home Life When You Used to Have a Job

Throughout my struggles, I’ve found a few things that worked to help me feel like my staying at home was not only what he wanted but also the best thing in the world for me too.

A Submissive's New Year's Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

Letting go is not an easy thing to do. Offering forgiveness is even harder.

How to Keep Yourself From Being Overwhelmed in a Service Dynamic

Service in a power exchange dynamic can be a very intense and involved experience, especially when you’re in a 24/7 dynamic and “always on.”