Leaving Work at the Door: How to Find Your Submissive Mindset Once You Are Both Home

My first question for March Question Month is about making the mental switch from work to home life. I know from experience that this is a very difficult time for both the Dominant and the submissive.

A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

Every submissive I know, including myself, hate to get into trouble, but it's going to happen. We have to admit that there will be times of backsliding, pushing limits and general disobedience in our learning. It's a part of growth. Don't think of punishment as something bad, but as something to help us grow inward.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

How to Talk to Your Dominant About Your Needs and Desires While Submissive

The more you hold in, the less you are really getting in your submission that you could potentially be enjoying. Open your mouth and speak up. Make your live how you'd like it. Stop dreaming of talking to your Dominant and start doing it.

When Your Dominant Plays With Others: How I Negotiated an Open Relationship Style That Works for Me

We laid down rules for what was allowed with play for others, we established a way to reconnect after he played so that I wouldn't feel less of a person once it was over.

Everything I Know About Submission I Learned from my Cat

The other day I was watching my cats and had a sudden realization that they way they live could have lessons for me and my submission if I wanted to see them. The truth is that you can pick up lessons everywhere you look if you want to.

Always Striving to be a Perfect Submissive Leaves You Less of Yourself - Here's Why

I think there are a couple of good reasons people strive for perfection, but what we tend to forget is that if we are constantly doing that we can never truly enjoy where we are at any point.

What Do I Do While I Wait for a Response from My Long Distance Dominant?

What do I do with myself when I'm waiting for my Master to respond to my messages?

31 Days of Submissive Journaling - Day 17: Two Key Items Every Blog Should Have

Every blog needs an About Page and a way to categorize posts. Come learn what each of these things add to your blog and how to add them today!