Being an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations, our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free and sincere; even if we have a lot going on in the background. Living as an emotionally healthy submissive takes knowing what is considered healthy to begin with.
Read The Series | Find SimilarBDSM and D/s. Some see it as the same, I seem them as two very different things. Here, I plan on explaining the how's and why's of my position. I am not seeking to change anyone's opinion, as you have a right to your own opinion, as I hope you will remember that I do also.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt is my place to be the loving, clumsy, sensual, bolshy, caring, frightened, strong, impatient, intelligent, emotional, imaginative, feral (yeah, I know) person that I am. …Which all brings me back to that one simple word… PEACE. I can try to fight all I want who I am inside, but in the end, I will not win because I am what I am.
Read The Article | Find SimilarYou can have the passion for teaching as well. In everything you do, there is a lesson that another submissive can pick up. A few years ago I was given the opportunity to show another submissive how I give a foot massage. Now, I've not had training and I've only picked up a few books and read a few articles so I wasn't sure what I could teach her, but we still sat down at the feet of our owners and massaged them. She did learn a few new things that she didn't already know and it re-solidified my ability to please my Master in this task. You too probably have things you can teach.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSince I’m writing from the male submissive point of view, I suppose this question might also be asked as, “Is male submission more mental than physical?” I find the question, no matter how you parse it, to be interesting largely because it’s something I never really considered before. I suppose the implied idea is that the female dominants somehow exert their control vis-à-vis more cerebral or psychological means whereas the men tend toward more physical means.
Read The Article | Find Similar"To please him." Sure it's a selfless response, but is it always the best answer and perhaps not the most honest? I'm going to talk about why I think we need to reflect on the question more before we consider the auto-response to be the true and valid one for our personal submission.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI’ve had other Doms comment that He can’t really teach me, that He can’t really control me, blah blah. He isn’t old enough, there is no way He could have the experience needed to handle a strong sub like me. However, to me, it’s less about experience than the intuition He has.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSubmission does not have to be full-time. It doesn't even have to be in the same room. But it does have to fill a need inside of you and when done right should fill you up and reaffirm your choices.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI hate lying to him but I don't feel like I had a choice. I don't know what to do.
Read The Article | Find SimilarDon't be afraid to speak up when you need or want something different. You never really stop negotiating in D/s.
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