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Lessons in Submissive Speech

Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.

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Solo-Coaching: Three Key Elements to Fire Your Motivation for Change as a Submissive

We all aspire to improve our lives and wish to take on the challenge to make those changes, but quickly we’ll realize that motivation is the key to that change. You can’t become a better submissive if you don’t have the motivation to make those changes.

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My Submissive Code of Ethics

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. I thought I would share it here so that you can perhaps get some ideas for developing your own code of ethics.

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A Feminist Submissive - Does Such a Person Exist? Yes! And I'll Tell You Why

Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a political viewpoint. I felt that I needed to be strong and in control. I had to be a partner with my spouse, and he felt I had to be independent and make my own decisions. While this helped me develop into the strong, independent woman I am today, it also created a vacuum in my personal life. I had to be in control all of the time, and eventually, I realized this had cost me much of my expression of sexuality and my feelings of femininity. I went into the exploration of the lifestyle looking to fill a need, to find out what was missing in my life.

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Getting Started with Exploring Erotic Hypnosis

The idea of hypnotism always frightened me a little. I never thought it was entertaining to watch someone go up on stage and act like a chicken or in some other humiliating way. My Master, however, was intrigued by the idea of using hypnotism in our M/s relationship. I have always felt somewhat self-conscious with role playing and acting out fantasies, so Master thought of hypnotism as a way to relax me and make me feel less self-conscious.

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Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

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Release from the Collar: A Journey

I’ve read a lot about what it’s like to be a submissive without a Dominant. I never really thought I’d find myself here, but here I am.

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A Submissive's New Year's Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

Letting go is not an easy thing to do. Offering forgiveness is even harder.

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The Importance of Keeping It All Together After Being Released From a Collar

I know I’m not the only one who has ever had to deal with this; I want to share my experience with other submissives in hopes of helping those who need some advice.

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Create SMART Goals For Your New Year's Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!

SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Agreed upon, Realistic, Time-based tasks that we set for ourselves with the intent of realizing a larger task. We call them goals, but in the end, what we want from our resolutions is less about making and achieving goals and more about making habits.

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