Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.
Read The Series | Find SimilarIf you think that a personal mantra would be a great way to help you keep yourself in the proper submissive mindset, I encourage you to speak with your owner to come up with one that works for you.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMore times than I care to count, I find myself in the train of thought that I shouldn’t even bother because I’m never going to understand the language, so why keep torturing myself? But then, on the other hand, I get so frustrated because I can’t really communicate while out in public. This is when having a bit of patience comes into play.
Read The Article | Find SimilarTrust is an extremely important factor in the lifestyle, and not just in the bedroom. You can’t have the trust in the bedroom if you don’t have the trust outside of the bedroom.
Read The Article | Find SimilarEven though we can’t always spend our days chained to the bed or sitting at our owner’s feet, there’s always a way to still show your submission in the vanilla world.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThis is just a small list of the things I carry with me(whether physically, mentally, and emotionally)that help me with my submission and help me be the slave that I want to be.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe reason why people outside the AB/DL and little lifestyle tend to think littles are irresponsible is because they assume since we enjoy childlike things, then obviously we are like children in all aspects, and this includes being irresponsible.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarBeing a submissive is a huge part of who you are, but it’s not all you are. It can be easy to lose yourself in the relationship and your submission. It’s important to be your own person as well.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.
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