Safewords Don't Automatically Mean You're Safe

There are lots of reasons and issues which propelled the existence of the Safe Word in the BDSM community. Many were quite valid and useful to distinguish the community from its ugly cousin ‘physical abuse’. The issue of consent being the bottomline.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Understanding Sub Fever

Figuring out what to do once you know you have it can be difficult. Novice submissives lose their rational thought really easily when the fever takes hold.

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain - Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That's it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused.

30 Days of Submission: Day 8 - Corporal Punishment

Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission?

30 Days of Submission: Day 26 - Qualities of My Ideal Dominant

What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why?

Creating Realistic Submissive Goals Sets You Up for Success

Setting goals is a great way to improve your lifestyle, whether you’re a single submissive or in a relationship.

Fun Things from February's Little Chat

Specifically for this chat, I created a couple of documents to share and because I think they’re awesome(I may be a little biased here), I wanted to share them with everyone else who didn’t get the chance to attend the chat.

When Journaling Gets Hard - How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

This is a personal account of what can happen when journalling goes wrong. In Elle's case, it was when she became depressed. It's about how to recognize that there is a problem, and what you and your dominant might do to overcome it.