Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 2: Hair

There’s a reason why the expressions “good hair day” and “bad hair day” exist: the behavior of your hair in the morning usually plays a huge role in how you’re feeling for the rest of the day.

Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 3: Nail Care

Your hands and feet are, to the rest of the world, subtle indicators of your dedication to things.

Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 4: Diet & Exercise

Feeling good about what you’re putting into your body and the performance you’re getting out of your body is a vital aspect of feeling good about who you are.

Serving and Submission after an Abusive History

Having been in the lifestyle for almost two years now, one of the things that I have noticed is that I am facing a lot of issues due to abuse from my past. Not from any Dominant in the lifestyle, just from others in my past. I've learned enough that if you have similar past experiences, I'd like to share some of it with you.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Shame Shame, I Know Your Name - Shame and the Lifestyle

Even though I knew the lifestyle is what I had looked for, I still felt ashamed for wanting to be a part of it. I felt what I was doing was wrong.

Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries

By setting our boundaries, we can ensure that we are navigating the ‘lifestyle’ waters as safely as possible. This is a personal responsibility that each of us have that is at its core about self preservation.

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

The slave resume is a snapshot of you - the services you thrive in, something you'd like to learn, S&M experiences/desires, interests, hobbies, in other words, you're sharing the highlights of yourself that you desire to find a compatible match for.

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

As we apply the term service to hierarchical relationships, it’s really simple: what the Owner requires or needs. Those things that make the Owner’s life easier, more comfortable, and more joyous (at the very least).