Solo-Coaching: Prioritize Your Submissive Goals With a 4-Box Matrix System

It’s very easy to get overwhelmed and have far too much to do with what feels like no time to do it. When searching for a way to help myself figure out how to organize my tasks so that I know how to prioritize them I came across 2 methods that work well.

What It Means to Be an Owned Kajira

It is my place to be the loving, clumsy, sensual, bolshy, caring, frightened, strong, impatient, intelligent, emotional, imaginative, feral (yeah, I know) person that I am. …Which all brings me back to that one simple word… PEACE. I can try to fight all I want who I am inside, but in the end, I will not win because I am what I am.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Exploring Endorphins from Pain Play for the First Time - A Point of View

I've always thought of myself as a complete wuss when it comes to pain. So it stands to reason that when I first started exploring the lifestyle, my fascination with all things painful was greatly tempered with uncertainty.

BDSM To Cure Insomnia

I am not a doctor or expert on health issues but I have found something which helps me get to sleep at night: BDSM! There are two ways I have found that BDSM helps me fall asleep at night.

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

What I learned from my own efforts in transitioning and hopefully they will help you too if you choose to move your submission from the bedroom to more or from more to total surrender in a Master/slave relationship.

Taming the Green-Eyed Monster - Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

Jealousy, unfortunately, is a recurrent emotion, even after years of a relationship. You cannot keep it from popping up now and then, but you can prepare yourself for its arrival.

Submission in Gratitude

There is so much to be thankful for and this year, as I look back, I see the amazing abundance that comes to us in various ways, but I also find myself appreciative and grateful for the opportunity to have learned (and keep learning) about Dominance and submission.

Reacting to Change in D/s Dynamics

How does adapting to changing interests and your growth as an individual fit into your D/s relationship?

The Art of Apology: How to Apologize

Once you know that you owe someone an apology, you’ve got to know how to apologize.