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A Submissive's Collection of Domestic Service Resources

Quite an extensive list of Domestic Service resources and links for any submissive looking to enhance that part of their service. Links from this site, the internet, FetLife and more.

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Grappling with Tradition and History to Define 24/7 Long Term D/s Relationships

Not so simply, it usually means the desire for lifetime commitment or a relationship with many or most of the same attributes that are familiar to all of us in its vanilla counterpart - the marriage.

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Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. Topping from the bottom is when you simultaneously adopt both roles. This could be in the form of giving commands, refusing requests or moving to control the location of impacts during play. Generally, it is frowned upon to try to force the Dominant’s hand to do something they do not wish to do.

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What to Expect When Attending a Munch

Why should you attend a munch? This is often the first step in exploring the BDSM lifestyle in real life, rather than online. You can meet people, make contacts, ask questions, and just enjoy your time out without worrying about keeping your secret desires secret any longer. This is most often the place where cross dressers can ‘come out’, so to speak, and appear in make up and outfits that reflect their lifestyle, without negative comments.

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But My Partner is Vanilla...: Three Options Available To You When Your Partner Isn't Kinky

So you've discovered kink and want to try some things out. You talk to your partner about it. Unfortunately, no matter how you suggest things to your partner they aren't interested. With that knowledge, you have only a few options.

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Dressing the Part - What to Wear at BDSM Community Functions

For new people and established ones alike, deciding what to wear to an event can be an adventure in fun, in stress or in dread. But even someone who loves to get dressed to go out can face moments of uncertainty when it comes to planning an outfit for the evening.

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How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

As long as your relationship (both in play and out of play) follows SSC standards, then you have a healthy relationship, and there is nothing that detracts from the fact that I believe men and women deserve equal rights.

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You Can't Be Little All the Time: Learning Appropriate Public Behavior as a Little

Being little in a public setting brings up the question of public consent. Do the people around you – apart from those who know you and understand your little side – consent to witnessing the public display of your kink?

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Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

Living with my Dom for a longer period of time has allowed us to develop some rough routines and expectations that we’ll continue to develop as time progresses, and these have begun to help me form answers to the questions that I’ve been asking on and off from the beginning of my submission.

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31 Days to Submissive Journaling - Day 14: Finding Your Voice

Finding your voice is a lot like finding your inner muse. Kallista helps you with solid, proven steps to make your words strong and express your personality on your blog.

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