When Fantasy Collides with Reality: Weighing Expectations when Exploring Kink Fantasies

Unrealistic expectations and desires are some of the most difficult challenges faced by those who are experienced in the lifestyle when dealing with those just entering the lifestyle. In many ways we each buy into a particular ‘aspect’ of the fantasy. Yet over and over people try to implement the impossible.

Add The Bunny Dip to Your List of Submissive Positions for a Playboy Bunny Flair

How can you avoid 'spillage' when serving a drink in your sexiest fet wear? Try 'the bunny dip'!

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

There Is No Such Thing as Vanilla Life When You Are 24/7

In many of the groups I frequent a common thread is how to keep the spark alive when vanilla life gets in the way of your 24/7 D/s or M/s relationship. These people feel overworked, stressed and taxed by the daily things that take up their day and they say that they are having problems staying connected as their roles dictate.

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Let me describe to you what a first scene might be like.

Video Review: Kink for Beginners

You are able to see kink done by real life people and the viewer can see the real connection and love between a full-time mistress/slave relationship.

31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Create a Butler's Book For Stress-Free Entertaining

What to include in your own Butler's book for entertaining, so that each guest will have an amazing time and you can showcase your best hostess skills.

You Are Not Your Collar - Submissive Meditation Monday

Don't lose yourself once you are collared.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 16 - Should You Try to Make Money with Your Blog?

A blog may feel like easy money, but making the decision to put ads on your blog may have a negative effect and might not even be allowed by your blog host. Knowing the facts and making a decision before you begin is an important step in creating your blog.

How To Navigate Public BDSM Play as a Transgender Person

Do what makes you feel most comfortable, and you’ll be doing it “right.”