Let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you.
Read The Article | Find SimilarTopping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. Topping from the bottom is when you simultaneously adopt both roles. This could be in the form of giving commands, refusing requests or moving to control the location of impacts during play. Generally, it is frowned upon to try to force the Dominant’s hand to do something they do not wish to do.
Read The Series | Find SimilarThe world is full of false truths. These false truths tend to be the assumptions of the uninformed or the beliefs of those who want to scare novices out of their wits. Many of these are because of a narrow view of the world or an inability to accept varying viewpoints. In this series, you’ll find some of the most popular BDSM myths that novices hear and what the truth really is.
Read The Series | Find SimilarWhen luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)
So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe role of the Dominant is to provide a safe environment for the sub to express his or her submissiveness and be able to grow. The role of the sub is to provide a safe environment for the Dominant to express His or Her Dominance and be able to grow.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIn an effort to keep our lifestyle to ourselves, we needed to put in some precautions to keep our adult toys out of reach and out of their imaginations.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhat is SSC? It's a credo that people in the BDSM community use to express the safety tenets of play.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWe need to take a step forward and be less judgmental and open to other people's kinks. Here's a story of one such discrimination. Learn to support each other.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere is no “proper manner” for asking for a collar.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt’s not uncommon for a black person entering the Lifestyle to wonder, is it acceptable for me as a black woman (or man) to have or serve a white Master?
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