3 Approaches To Begging When Asked To Do So

Begging is an art form for submissives. Each of us has our own talent or lack thereof in this area. For some, it is part of humiliation or just everyday activities. There are different approaches to begging.

Dating in the Lifestyle; What's the Big Deal?

I feel that we approach a Lifestyle date very differently than we would in a vanilla context.

Don't Assume Submissive Means Sister: Calling Me Your Sub Sister May Be a Bit Much

We are all people, submissive or not. Just because you identify as submissive does not give you a membership card into the friendship club for me. Sure I'm going to care for you with the same care I give any person I meet. Just don't expect me to care more because you are submissive. This isn't always a dog eat dog world, but you can't expect people to always treat you the way you treat them.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Establishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk

Let's cover what a safe environment looks like from the people present at the physical location you choose to talk in. A good environment takes planning and mutual agreements to work the way it's supposed to. And you thought that you just had to say, "We need to talk," right?

Shame Shame, I Know Your Name - Shame and the Lifestyle

Even though I knew the lifestyle is what I had looked for, I still felt ashamed for wanting to be a part of it. I felt what I was doing was wrong.

Introduction to Kink with Mollena Williams: Polyamory Weekly

Mollena Williams, co-author of "Playing Well with Others" talks about how to safely enter the BDSM community and how to find people to play with!

A Day in the Life of Tequila Rose

A snapshot of the daily life of tequilarose. This is part of an ongoing series of posts where you too can share a typical day in your submissive life with the rest of us!

What is Aftercare?

Most often we associate this term with the time frame immediately following a 'scene'. However, this term is equally applicable at many other points and times and many times is not associated with BDSM or D/s at all.

[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

A lovely infographic (huge image with knowledge) for Bondage Beginners.