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A Submissive Approach to Safe, Sane and Consensual

When you first enter the more public BDSM community one of the largest catch phrases you will here is SSC, also known as Safe, Sane and Consensual. It is a security blanket approach to safety when playing and negotiation of play. As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and well.

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Carte Blanche - Repeating Misbehavior Patterns

I'm going to talk about a submissive's mindset when it comes to repeat patterns in behavior and why we just can't keep our feet on the straight and narrow.

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The Abuse Debate: A Matter of Acceptance Not Consent

BDSM relationships make the argument on abuse much more complicated than it already is, and those in TPE relationship have an even harder time than that. For non-kinky people, it's pretty easy to define abuse. How do you define abuse if the way the dictionary defines it just does not apply to you?

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Purging Your Emotional Garbage Can Will Prepare You Better for Service

I'm sure we've all heard that this or that person comes with too much baggage. The reason I see that this is an issue at all in new relationships is due to the way it's handled. That baggage, whether it be debt, past partners still present somehow, grief, emotional issues or any other items that are brought in can weigh hard on the responsibilities of the new partner and how they interact with each other. Now, couple that with this unreal belief that a Dominant will 'fix' all that for the submissive and you are dealing with an explosive situation.

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Rule #1 - Don't Touch Anything Without Permission

You'll meet white collar, blue collar and poverty stricken people in the same room enjoying conversation with each other. But a select few people haven't learned about spatial boundaries or that the number one rule in groups across the country and perhaps the world is that you don't touch anyone or anything without permission.

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8 Ways You Might Be a "Doormat" Submissive and How to Stop

Let's not confuse the traits of a loving, unselfish and sacrificing submissive with a doormat. Here are some questions you must ask yourself.

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Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship)

Other than fulfilling pleasure, your sexual needs are just as important as any other needs you have in a relationship; from love or happiness, trust and honesty, being taken care of or anything else you've determined is a need for you in a relationship.

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Getting Over Your Fears to Talk About Your Newfound Kinky Desires

Once you know why you are afraid to talk to your partner you can work to relieve that stress because communication is so very important to your relationship. You can't control how they will respond, but at least you will be confident in your approach.

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How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality - Taking What You've Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

So, you've come here looking for how to make those fantasies and hot stories something real; something you can experience for yourself. Let's try to get your training wheels in place so you can go into your first conversation and foray into hot kinky sex with open eyes.

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Are You Cut Out to Be Submissive?

Not everyone is capable of being submissive. It is even possible that you are not really cut out for it. We all have different thresholds for what we can and can't do, but realizing we can't be submissive isn't the end of the world. Great, so how do you know if you can be submissive or not?

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