The first of three contract examples from Mrs. Darling. This one is from her book, retelling her own submissive discovery tale, Darling Discovered. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThree challenges that come about after rules are selected and you are practicing them or have had them for a long time.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarI'm going to talk about a submissive's mindset when it comes to repeat patterns in behavior and why we just can't keep our feet on the straight and narrow.
Read The Article | Find SimilarDiscipline and Punishment. The words are far from the same however some dynamics treat them the same. In fact, for the longest time, I have used the word punishment when I mean discipline. It’s even possible that Master has used these words interchangeably as well. I’ve done some thinking to try to sort out what these two words mean in our dynamic and how they are employed. I have a preference for clearly defined terms and boundaries so these two words are worth defining.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAs a submissive, it's hard to not beat yourself up over being unintentionally disobedient. I've been known to mope around for days after I've been in trouble; basically still punishing myself - even though the punishment is complete. Punishment is so that when it's complete you can move on with a clear slate. So, how do you cure that post-infraction funk?
Read The Article | Find SimilarI'd like to share with you what helped me restore myself and ultimately seek the collar again.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI had a question sent to me the other day asking for suggestions and strategies that a novice submissive could use to make sure they don't break the rules while they are still learning which sparked this topic for me.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSo how would they know when the humiliation is damaging you? Is it possible to use humiliation as a punishment without damaging a sub's self-esteem or is it best reserved strictly for play alone & nothing more?
Read The Article | Find SimilarReceiving punishment without having a safe word in place isn’t for everyone.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt's not just about the lesson that the Dominant is trying to teach you, but for yourself; how to repair faith in yourself and your chosen submission, how to lift the guilt and how to humbly move on in apology, progress, and recovery.
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