Exploring Play and Punishment in a Long Distance Relationship

Playing by yourself (at the behest of your Dominant) requires a great deal of self-restraint and self-discipline. So how do you have play time when you’re in a long-distance relationship?

How Rituals Can Enhance Your BDSM Scenes

Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for your BDSM play is an intimate and powerful way to connect. Using rituals will strengthen your roles, build dynamic scenes, and amplify your playtime to create the ideal atmosphere for BDSM activities.

Understanding Your Body's Responses During Play

When you engage in playtime with a Dominant your body is the canvas for sensation and pleasure. You can run the gamut of emotions and many of them can take you by surprise. It's not uncommon even for someone who plays regularly to be shocked by a new reaction to a play activity that they have experienced before. This goes beyond the bruising, scratching and other physical results of play. Here are just a few of the more common reactions to play.

Getting to Know the Local and Not so Local BDSM Community: Attending Munch Groups

One of the most feared activities of a novice is getting up the nerve to meet other people face to face. Yet this is one of the first things that I and many others recommend for those wishing to get into BDSM. I encourage people to learn all they want behind the comfort of a computer screen but to really taste things as they are, they need to get out and experience it.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

BDSM To Cure Insomnia

I am not a doctor or expert on health issues but I have found something which helps me get to sleep at night: BDSM! There are two ways I have found that BDSM helps me fall asleep at night.

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

When you are brand new to anything related to BDSM it is likely that you will not know many of your limits and that's okay. Make sure you are prepared to share that information if you want to play, but also to stop as soon as you think you've reached a limit.

Hitting the Wall During Play - Limit's Edge

What does it mean to hit the wall? Let's explore how deep the rabbit hole goes and become more aware of our own limits during play.

Write an Online BDSM Dating Profile That Gets Results!

I'll help you figure out what to have on your profile to help you get the attention you want and how to handle the attention you don't want.