Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

The Bare Necessities of a Total Power Exchange Relationship

What do I absolutely have to have in order for my submission to him to be fulfilling and rewarding? What makes our relationship work after 6 years and with no hint of failing?

False Submission: Insta-Subs Online

Whether it be by using a title "Sir" for them without asking, are abeyant to them by agreeing to everything they say and otherwise going above and beyond common respect. It's like they are sucking up to every Dominant to attract attention. I call this insta-sub.

What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

I'd like you to understand that it is okay to find limits you didn't know where there. They could be play activities that you never experienced before that you found you don't like or it could be a pain or sensation edge. Either way, it does not make you any less of a person or a submissive or a masochist. It actually makes you that much more unique and special.

How Do I Know What I Like? I'm Brand New

We more experienced people do have a habit of looking at new people funny when they don't know what they are into. I think we forget that we were there once, that we floundered and stuttered when asked if we liked bondage or spanking, or if we were a Dominant or submissive. So, hopefully, we'll learn from this little article too - that we were there once.

Entering the Community: Who You'll Meet and What to Expect at a Munch

Everyone is nervous to attend their first munch. Here are the types of people you might encounter when you go.

31 Days to Submissive Journaling - Day 14: Finding Your Voice

Finding your voice is a lot like finding your inner muse. Kallista helps you with solid, proven steps to make your words strong and express your personality on your blog.

The Submissive Blues - Submissive Meditation Monday

Sometimes you can feel so disconnected with your submission that you begin to question who you are. Here's my meditation on my personal struggle.

How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality - Taking What You've Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

So, you've come here looking for how to make those fantasies and hot stories something real; something you can experience for yourself. Let's try to get your training wheels in place so you can go into your first conversation and foray into hot kinky sex with open eyes.

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

I'm going to guide you to the answers, but you'll still have to do your own work as far as finding the answers that will work for you.