10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

What Happens At Your First Munch?

So you are ready to venture into the great wide expanse of public life and meet people face to face. That's great! A munch is a safe and fun environment to do that in. A munch is a meet and greet of kinky folks in a public to semi-private space where you can get to know people, talk and ask questions and just enjoy feeling good about who you are without having to hide anything.

What is a Play Party?

When you enter the local BDSM community one of the events you may be exposed to is a play party. A play party is an essentially a party where BDSM play can occur. Groups hold parties as a way to learn and educate on safe play methods, chat about topics and generally hang around.

Where Do I Start in BDSM?

It's an overwhelming feeling when you are facing a world of new information. It can be difficult when you have so many questions and blanks in your mind but give me a moment to explain how you can begin to fill in the void.

Don't I Know You From Somewhere? - Encountering People You Know at a Munch

You might be recognized. That's right, there just might be someone there that you know from your life at these things. And that puts lead in so many boots. It doesn't have to be that way if you know how you want to handle that before you step out the door.

You Don't Have to Be a Porn Star or Fashion Model to Participate in BDSM

You've seen the porn on Kink.com and other places and you notice that most of the pictures on FetLife are of fit, healthy people dressed in latex and leather from head to toe. You can't possibly fit into the BDSM world. Wrong.

Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the BDSM Scene

I am strongly attracted to my Dom despite his lack of fitness, however whenever he holds me down I can easily push him off if I want to, etc.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 2 of 7) - More Specific Guidelines

In this part of Ambrosio's series on Leather protocol and etiquette; appropriate behavior at munches and other gatherings where socializing happens as well as how to handle trolls and other inappropriate behavior.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) - Cruising With Class

Ambrosio covers "cruising" in part 6 of this series on Leather protocol and etiquette. Take head of the warnings and tips for those casual experiences.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) - Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio's series on Protocol and Etiquette, it's play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.