10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a munch or party and be faced with the question “What are you into?” The newbie who likes sensual play or enjoys service may feel that s/he is not quite living up to the expectations of the lifestyle.

Keeping D/s Alive Through Engagement and Marriage

I feel bad that sometimes lately I have forgotten I am marrying my Master and not just the man I love. There have been things we have been doing however to keep the D/s active.

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

This post is more about the D/s decisions surrounding children that have come to my attention through requests for advice and by reading discussions on forums. Below are my personal opinions about these topics and anything I say here should be weighed against your own morals and beliefs. Make your own decisions about your life.

Shame Shame, I Know Your Name - Shame and the Lifestyle

Even though I knew the lifestyle is what I had looked for, I still felt ashamed for wanting to be a part of it. I felt what I was doing was wrong.

The Importance of Keeping It All Together After Being Released From a Collar

I know I’m not the only one who has ever had to deal with this; I want to share my experience with other submissives in hopes of helping those who need some advice.

Fifty Shades of Grey, Consent and the Media's Representation of Kink

Unfortunately, the 50 Shades of Grey series is the litmus test that the mainstream media will now use to judge what those of us in the community consider to be a huge part of who we are.

31 Days To Better Domestic Service

I'd like to be a part of giving submissives a boost (or a kick in the butt) and hopefully, in the process give them motivation (and practical know how) to get their home and life more in order and reaching their service potential.