How To Perform a Self-Assessment Before You Search For a Dominant Partner

It's good to start forming an idea of who you are and what you are looking for before you start searching for a Dominant

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Start Here: Don't Begin Exploring BDSM Until You've Read the Basics

There are so many primers out there about BDSM I'm not sure if another one is really needed. Then again with all the basic questions asked on forums and chat rooms about BDSM it's unlikely that my words will not be read by someone and that they will take something new from them.

Know Thyself, Don't Rush Into a Relationship Until You Know These Six Things

Being a single submissive preparing for a relationship is just about as much work as those of us in relationships. Personal development should be your main focus. I have six very important tasks that should help you prepare for a happy future.

The Outline of a Good Compatible Dominant

The qualities to look for in a Dominat are subjective but perhaps we can figure out some basics to help you along the way.

How Far Should You Go On a First Date?

My first dates ran the gamut of things you can do and should do and definitely should not do. I do hope that my suggestions and advice will give you some ideas and a solid foundation to start from.

Entering the Community: Who You'll Meet and What to Expect at a Munch

Everyone is nervous to attend their first munch. Here are the types of people you might encounter when you go.

I'm Worried I'm Not Enough for My Dominant

He's in love with me as well but I'm not so sure that I'm what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. As his submissive /slave, is it wrong for me to decide this for him? Tell him that I'm no longer what he needs. Or do I sit back and watch the man I love, my Master, struggle internally?

9 Books on BDSM and D/s I've Read More Than Once (They're THAT Good!)

You have to admit that the books that resonate with you the most, are ones you've read more than once. Here's my list of 9 of the best BDSM and D/s related books that I've pulled off the shelf time and time again.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) - General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.