Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

A Slap in the Face: Exploring Face Slapping in BDSM

A slap can say a lot of things, given the circumstances and the parties involved. To some, a slap in the face can say “I love you.” It can say, “you've fucked up.” It can say any number of things in between. But something it will always convey is “you're Mine.” The control and the ownership that is inherent in that one motion can be overwhelming. He loves me enough to discipline me when I need it.

How to Be More Aware of Your Self and Surroundings to Improve Your Submission

In this hustle and bustle world, we are losing an important connection. No, I'm not talking about the internet; we are all plugged and tuned out from the world around us. We seldom recognize the people around us let alone acknowledge them. If your goal is to be a submissive that serves every wish of your Dominant, sometimes before they know they need or want something you have to unplug and relearn a vital personal trait. You have to become more aware of what's around you.

On Being Worthless: Consensual Humiliation and Slut Training

Hearing a term like "worthless" can often be an emotional experience. However, in the context in which I use the term, "worthless," to describe myself in my place as Master's slave, it has a very different feel. In this context, "worthless" does not mean that I am unvalued, or that I do not matter to Master.

Building Your Fetish Wardrobe on a Budget

There are different styles of fetish wear to consider when building your wardrobe. You might even have a decent selection in your closet already. To add a bit more spice you can always go shopping.

Solo Coaching - The CREATE Model

Today I'm going to cover a coaching model that I learned about that will work quite well for our submissive journey. It's called the CREATE model. The CREATE system is a model that when used will ensure you stay on track

Is Your Heart Truly In It? - Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire

Submission does not have to be full-time. It doesn't even have to be in the same room. But it does have to fill a need inside of you and when done right should fill you up and reaffirm your choices.

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams - Working With The Man You Have

Just because your partner got a little kinky that one time during sex does not mean they have a kinky bone in their body.

I Will Not Support Your Affair: My Stand on Cheating

This is my personal stand on secret relationships, or affairs and how I handle requests for help from people in them.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 29 - Social Networking Best Practices

Unlike regular blogging – writing long posts with photos – microblogging is meant to be quick, succinct, and pointed. Here are 5 tips to protect your online safety when using a social networking site.