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The Time Between Knots: Changing Our Perspectives on Rope Bondage

After a few months of "bonding" over rope bondage, though, I'm pretty convinced it's a whole different animal. Perhaps there is something to be gained from regarding it as such.

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Pain Processing

Sadomasochism is the giving and receiving of sensations. In a lot of cases, this also includes pain. Many of the sadomasochistic tendencies bleed into our relationships in some form or another so what better discussion than to talk about processing pain. Now, no matter what processing method you use, there are ways you can learn to process pain differently to enjoy pain play more fully, allow you to take more pain and to push your pain edge further.

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Perspectives: Canes

Canes are a scary tool in expert hands and dangerous tools in the inexperienced person's hand. But it doesn't have to be about pain, although it turned out that way for me.

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Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that I never stop being spanked.

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Perspectives: Flogging

Flogging remains one of my favorite activities and KnyghtMare is pretty good with one or two floggers (Florentine-style), and he teaches it in classes in the area. As with the other Perspectives posts I wanted to share with you how it feels for a submissive to be the receiver of a flogging.

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Perspectives: Gags

Being introduced to a ball gag was a scary thing for me. But no one ever warned me of the feeling of drool dripping down your chin. As with other Perspectives posts I wanted to share with you how it feels as a submissive exploring gags

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Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of rope did and it was a fantastic first experience all around.

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Playing Well with Others

This book by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams is the quintessential guide for novices and seasoned players ready to enter the BDSM community. No other book like this exists so it's a great addition to your personal kink library.

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Play Parties

When you enter the local BDSM community one of the events you may be exposed to is a play party. A play party is an essentially a party where BDSM play can occur. Groups hold parties as a way to learn and educate on safe play methods, chat about topics and generally hang around.Learning about play parties may be intimidating at first but they don’t have to be.

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Play with Chronic Illness, What Resources Are There?

I know the difference between good pain and bad pain, so is there a way we can restart our B-D relationship or would it be unwise to do so?

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Positive Pain Processing Interview is Out Now on KinkyCast!

I sat down to record a podcast with the crew at KinkyCast.com and today it's live! I talked with Gabrielle, Woody and the Beast about how to process pain during play, why it's important to understand and how to positively process pain to make your play last longer, be more fulfilling and perhaps even reach subspace!

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