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Disabled? Ideas on How You Can Still Enjoy BDSM When Impaired

There are many Dominants and submissives with varying degrees of disability or other physical problems that, to some extent, leave them handicapped. It is quite possible to scene from both sides despite such impairments. However, some key things should be addressed.

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Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

There are two common methods to positively process pain. Dispersion and Release are more like titles for a range of positive techniques.

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Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I enjoy sub space because it separates me from the pain. I want to feel it, embrace it and hold it close. I've learned a few important skills that push those pain boundaries and bring me further into a sadist’s grasp. The most valuable of those skills is visualization.

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Learning Bimbofication: "Feeling Slutty" Feels Negative

My Master is into what is called, "bimbofication". I feel like my Master has done a great job with moving in baby steps, yet I still get overwhelmed. How can I stop from feeling overwhelmed by all these changes? How can I overcome associating feminine things with sluttiness?

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Learning to Appreciate the Small Moments - Submissive Meditation Monday

Everyone has time in their lives where things don't feel like they are going their way at all. It can drag you down or you can search for the positive.

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Let’s Party! Finding Local Play Parties

Parties are a ‘rite of passage’ for some in the BDSM community. How do you find one? What can you expect? And most importantly (for me) what on earth can you wear?

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Limits

Limits are personal boundaries that everyone places for how far they are willing to take things. These limits can be sexual, personal, emotional or otherwise. You may even have some for your every day that you don’t realize are limits. If you don’t have any BDSM experience, the idea of setting up limits can be challenging. Let’s dive into what they are, how to figure them out and why you make sure they are respected.

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Limits: Drawing That Line In The Sand

Applying limits to your BDSM experience is necessary for negotiation purposes in play and in relationships. It's like a compatibility scale. The more items on the limit list that match the more likely you are to be compatible and have fun playing in the same way. Being a novice isn't a hindrance for everyone, some Dominants like to help a novice explore their limits.

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Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Sub space is a real thing. It does happen and there are many ways you can reach sub space, experience sub space and come out of sub space. And there are people that don't reach sub space. That doesn't make you any less of a submissive, not at all. It just means you experience things differently.

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Make Your Own Step-by-Step Guide for a Scene

Do you have any tips, useful links/books, or a how-to of sorts that could be followed step by step for our first try at scening?

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Male Submission – Foot Fetish

A foot fetish is not necessarily related to submission, although for many guys the two combine well and there are a whole lot of varieties of activities and preferences for guys with a foot fetish.

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