In this BDSM Glossary series I help you understand some of the common and less common words and phrases used throughout the BDSM community.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarIt's funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for "chemistry" as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, He simply doesn't exist either in the Vanilla world or in the lifestyle. Most Doms I know have regular lives to live and when their backside itches they scratch it. They fart when they eat beans and burp when they drink a beer. They wake up with bags under their eyes and a 5 o'clock shadow just exactly like their vanilla counterparts. But here we are hoping like crazy that he will forever and ever look like a hottie in leathers while always having a desire to flog our submissive little behinds.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHearing a term like "worthless" can often be an emotional experience. However, in the context in which I use the term, "worthless," to describe myself in my place as Master's slave, it has a very different feel. In this context, "worthless" does not mean that I am unvalued, or that I do not matter to Master.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI decided to return the collar with the same regard in which it was presented. Traditionally, a collar is offered with a great deal of significance for the persons and the relationship they share. But in the heat of emotion, we may not think to return one in the same reverent manner which it was accepted. So, I took it upon myself to rise above the childish feelings I could have so easily resorted to.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere’s a downright ugly side to it, especially when the slave has been ‘alone’ for a long period of time. That has been my situation. Whew… Breathe with me, for I’m about to share some things that people either don’t think really happens or are afraid to admit to happening …
Read The Article | Find SimilarIf you've ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed relationships then you haven't broadened your thinking enough. It's not just the full-time "lifestyle" submissives that can benefit from rituals, rules, and protocols in their lives. Submissives that dabble in the bedroom only have a lot they can do to enhance their experience in play and sex with their partner.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarLike everything in life, there are pros and cons to both types of management styles and I want to share some of those with you now.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI'm going to cover the basics of protocol, some different types of protocol and then talk about how to develop your own protocol in your relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMistress Steel tackles the the topic of introducing your partner to BDSM and D/s. She provides some simple suggestions to get you started with the conversation and some subtle hints you can use today to share your kink with your spouse.
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