Discipline or Punishment - Which is it?

Exploring differences in discipline and punishment, Mistress Steel provides some basic definitions to help you decide which purpose you’re going for in your situation.

7 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Using Ritual to Maintain and Define Power Exchange

No matter how you view your life, rituals can help define the power structures we choose for our relationships. Rituals can enrich power exchange by giving reinforcement, regularity, and depth to relationships in a unique and beautiful way.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Recovering From the End of a D/s Relationship

Sometimes relationships don’t work out for whatever reason. Asking for release from a relationship is never an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons and how it is done.

30 Days of Submission Challenge: Day 1 – Labeling My Submission

Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label?

30 Days of Submission: Day 9 - Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty

Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission?

You're Not the Boss of Me! Empowerment Through Submission

Even though I am not currently in a D/s relationship, it’s important for me to always remember that I don’t have to submit to anyone.

How Do I Help My Dom Give Me What I Need

Are you both new to BDSM or D/s and want to know how to deepen your relationship and give each other what you want and need? Great advice is waiting for you.

How to Approach a Couple into Kink and Polyamory when You are New

Be realistic with yourself about what you are offering, but when you are new to Kink and Polyamory there's a lot of conversation that needs to happen. Here's what you should discuss.