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Mentors

Applying mentoring to a BDSM context a mentor is someone that guides and advises a newbie on what to expect, things they might want learn and other items. I believe a mentor should be on the same level as you. There are many opinions out there, but common sense advice can be found in the following series of articles about mentors.

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BDSM Checklists

If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes.A checklist can be very helpful for you when you are first starting out. You can learn what you might like to try and get answers to things you don’t know about. Some of the more detailed checklists can seem overwhelming but please realize that you don’t have to like everything. Pick and choose and be honest.

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I Need Help Finding a Mentor

I was wondering how I can get a submissive mentor? I'd like to talk about things with someone that has experience. I am on fetlife but I don't love posting things where everyone can see. Can you help me find someone?

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How to Give Good Initial Submissive Interviews for a D/s Relationship

When you first start talking to a potential Dominant you go through an initial interview. A lot of times this is just a period where basic questions are asked and your answers help the Dominant gauge just how interested you are in them, how compatible you are with them and what your intelligence level is.

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Don't Assume Submissive Means Sister: Calling Me Your Sub Sister May Be a Bit Much

We are all people, submissive or not. Just because you identify as submissive does not give you a membership card into the friendship club for me. Sure I'm going to care for you with the same care I give any person I meet. Just don't expect me to care more because you are submissive. This isn't always a dog eat dog world, but you can't expect people to always treat you the way you treat them.

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Should There Be Clear Definitions to Label Yourself In This Lifestyle?

So should there be a solid set of definitions that people can choose from? Other than the dictionary definitions that is; something lifestyle related that we can point to and say if you fit into a, b and c you are submissive, but if you feel more like d, e and f you are slave. If we had to come up with specific definitions what would be in your list for each label?

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A Mentor is Not Your Dom: Learning How to Connect with Experienced People For Submissive Development

If a Dominant approaches you and offers to be your mentor, make sure you clarify with them what you expect from them and for your own sake, keep it platonic. Your personal growth will be much improved and when that perfect Dominant comes along you'll be ready.

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What Novice Dominants Really Want in a More Experienced Submissive

Novice Dominants have a lot to learn, that is true. And who better to teach them than a submissive that has experienced submission?

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Mentorships - What to Do Before the Process Begins

Like all relationships, the mentoring one is not one to be entered into lightly - not because things have to be intense but because they could be. The main thing about a mentorship is that everyone is on the same page about expectations and that the lines of communication remain open. With that in mind, there are a few things to consider when seeking a mentor.

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Self-Esteem in Submissives: Self-Talk, Affirmations and Self-Love

Whether dominant or submissive, we have been shaped by our pasts. Many of us take the messages we heard in our childhood, into our adult lives and still believe these terrible things about ourselves.

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