The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

The submissive or slave mindset often sought after by novice submissives or those changing the form of their dynamic to 24/7 relationships, doesn't exist.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Know Thyself, Don't Rush Into a Relationship Until You Know These Six Things

Being a single submissive preparing for a relationship is just about as much work as those of us in relationships. Personal development should be your main focus. I have six very important tasks that should help you prepare for a happy future.

BDSM To Cure Insomnia

I am not a doctor or expert on health issues but I have found something which helps me get to sleep at night: BDSM! There are two ways I have found that BDSM helps me fall asleep at night.

When Your Owner's Home Grows: The Impact of Having Additional Live-in Dominants and submissives

Anytime you have a Home with one Master and no matter how well ordered, three s-types one of them new to the Home there is going to be administrative issues if nothing else. We have faced everything from handling of the children to dealing with punishments and chore allocation. Never-mind interpersonal issues focusing around relationships and commitments as well as insecurity and a little passive aggressiveness.

My Master Wants to Have Sex With Other People

Is it normal for your Master to want to play and have sex with others?

Ideas for Discreet Punishment

He's hesitant to continue the discussion on rules he would like for me to follow due to the fact that punishment for these rules would be hard due to lack of privacy. Any suggestions about discreet punishments?

Some Misconceptions about the Caregiver/Little Dynamic

Debunking some misconceptions of the Caregiver dynamic.

Time Management: The Pomodoro Technique

The Pomodoro technique has, so far, successfully combated most of the challenges of being a stay-at-home partner, and has a couple of different, bonus benefits that I could potentially see working for various personality types.

Things Have Changed and I Feel Insecure In My Relationship

Advice for a submissive who is feeling lost and insecure in their relationship when the sex life changes. Kayla tackles this really difficult topic.