As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dom/me is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dom/me. If you are playing with a new Dom/me and aren’t asked this question, my advice is not to play with the person. I have heard Dom/mes say that They don’t play with safe words or limits because They know what They are doing. How can a Dom/me know if you have health issues or triggers or are just plain terrified of something unless you tell them?
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Consent and Negotiation are probably something that we think about but don’t really acknowledge daily. It is important none the less to think about and address in a Dominant/submissive relationship.
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When you first enter the more public BDSM community one of the largest catch phrases you will here is SSC, also known as Safe, Sane and Consensual. It is a security blanket approach to safety when playing and negotiation of play. As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and well.
Read The Article | Find SimilarDuring submissive frenzy, you may feel a desperate need to have your desires fulfilled. Many of the activities in BDSM can be considered addictive and frenzy is much like a withdrawal stage. This series will help you understand your urgent feelings and how to listen to your gut when you need it most.
Read The Series | Find SimilarThere is a wide variety of activities you can learn that are part of Fire Play, but first, make sure you understand the risks. Fire is dangerous. We learned that as children. Know what you are doing before you start applying it to your skin as a part of BDSM play. Once you know, check out all the things you can do with it!
Read The Article | Find SimilarA lot of what we do can classify itself under role-playing. In fact D/s is a form of role-play. For many people it is just a character they don to play or have some kinky fun; it's not a part of their personality. The idea of role playing is taking on another persona other than yourself to enact that character. It can be short or long term.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI'd like you to understand that it is okay to find limits you didn't know where there. They could be play activities that you never experienced before that you found you don't like or it could be a pain or sensation edge. Either way, it does not make you any less of a person or a submissive or a masochist. It actually makes you that much more unique and special.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI want some attention to just an acknowledgment that he knows I exist. Or is wanting that out of line with being submissive?
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere's a lot you can do to learn about BDSM and what your limits might be.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIn this part of Ambrosio's series, you learn all about Flagging, the Hanky code and Symbols or Rituals you can use to identify others interested in similar kinks and power exchange styles.
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