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The Submissive Guide Newsletter Archive is published on the site at least 3 months after it is sent to the mailing list. Each newsletter has questions and additional resources that make it different than a standard post.

Articles

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality
New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

What makes a D/s relationship so different from mainstream relationships? Learn the key differences, how you can apply what you learn to your own relationships and watch it develop into your most fulfilling relationship possible.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first thought is that it is ‘like any other relationship,’ but that’s not entirely accurate. Let me tell you what the common misconceptions are and then we can talk about the reality of a D/s relationship. You may be surprised to learn that they aren’t as foreign as you think.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

Communication comes up frequently as a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us don’t know what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

You aren’t a doormat. As a submissive, you can have autonomy and an active submission you can be proud of. So, must you always wait for orders? You tell me.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Sometimes, as we grow up, we hang on to old defense mechanisms that served us fine at the time, but now seem to garner negative feedback. Here’s how you too can rewrite old defensive behaviors into something that will serve you much better.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Breaking up is traumatic and should be managed like grief and loss. It can’t be rushed and everyone deals with it differently. But as long as you have patience you can help your partner make it out the other side.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

What’s it like to discover BDSM later in life?

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

When looking for that compatible partner to spend your life with, determining face to face if they are attractive, how well you get along and many other factors is an important early step; even if you plan to continue discussions online after meeting.

It’s Not Just The Size That Matters: Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis

It’s Not Just The Size That Matters: Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis

Handling an intact penis is different from a cut one, that’s for sure. Here’s what I’ve picked up from the number of penis’ I’ve had intimate connection with a time or two.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality
The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

It’s never easy being single and knowing you want to find a Dominant partner adds to the mix of things to look for in a partner that often narrows the pool. But with these 5 tips on selecting Dominants, you’ll have a better understanding and hopefully renewed inspiration for your own dating endeavors.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

There is this misconception that everyone shares everyone else in play or sex such as a party and that needs to stop.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Afraid of Not Being Me Anymore: Transformation Without Fear

Afraid of Not Being Me Anymore: Transformation Without Fear

Becoming submissive does not mean you stop being who you are now. All of my advice has always been that you should be you, just a better you.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth

Learn to Speak Up and Speak Out: Empowering Yourself to Have a Voice

But asking for what I want and raising concerns to him is topping from the bottom! No, no it’s not. You do, in fact, have to tell them what you are thinking and feeling.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you’ve found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

How Sub Space Affects Sexual Sensations During Play

What we can all agree on is that subspace alters your senses during play. I’m going to talk about why orgasms fail to happen during subspace and the very tiny minority that can achieve orgasm during subspace.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

While it’s a small few, there are people who can threaten your sense of trust and your own emotions. These are the wolves of the online D/s world.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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