What NOT to Share on Your Online Profile

This video post is about what not to share on your online profile.
We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it doesn’t [...]

The Impact of Velcro Collars on the Symbolism

This week’s video post is about velcro collars.
To submissives, a collar is one of the most important things they have. It is a symbol of their commitment, their service and their adoration of a special someone. In most situations, the offering or begging of a collar is not taken lightly. The weight of the matter [...]

Open for Questions

Submissive Guide.com is doing wonderfully as a start up site and I hope that each and every one of you has learned and grown in your submission since you found this site and it’s associated resources. I’m just one person hoping to provide you with something you may not be able to find somewhere else.
A [...]

The Many Layers of Sub Space

This week’s video post is about sub space.
When you first heard about sub space it was probably something that you either thought you’d never experience or something that seemed so strange and foreign that you believed it to be a myth. Then you heard the stories and could swear that people were on drugs or [...]

Assualt is NOT okay

This week’s video post is about an issue that needs more awareness.
I had someone ask me for some advice through my email the other day and it went something like this:
I just started exploring my kinky side and I’ve only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started talking really [...]

First Meetings Done Safely

This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety.
When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense?
You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve been talking [...]

Donate Your Old BDSM Books to Submissive Guide

This week’s video post is a plea for your assistance with books for the review section of this site.
I’m working on bringing you more book reviews more often. In order to do this I would love to have some help from all of you. There are different levels of help and please hear me out [...]

What’s the Difference Between a Lifestyler and a Player?

This week’s video is about definitions of a lifestyler and a player.
I received the following question via email the other day and thought I would cover it here in a video post.
I’m in a D/s relationship where we tend to do most of our activities behind closed doors. Outside we are a normal equal couple. [...]

Submissive PMS and How to Deal With It

This video post is about how to deal with a submissive bout of PMS.
It’s not your normal run of the mill PMS. You don’t have cramps or bloating or headaches or chills, but your mood is so out of whack that you are getting in trouble just by opening your mouth. You don’t know where [...]

Can I Be Abused in a BDSM Relationship?

This week’s video post is about BDSM vs. Abuse.
A BDSM relationship, especially one with sadomasochistic moments, is subject to questions all the time about it’s proximity to abuse. It is not uncommon to have people unfamiliar with BDSM to say that what we do is abuse and violence; we see it all the time portrayed [...]

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings.
Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where a [...]

Can Online Training Work?

This week’s video is about online training and submission.
The world of online Dominance and submission is riddled with skepticism and disbelief that anyone can really live and enjoy a relationship online. The fact of it all is that there are an endless numbers of people experiencing a form of D/s called cyber D/s. Whether it [...]

Do I have to Like Pain to be Submissive?

 
This week’s video post is about masochism and submission.
I mentioned this in the post about myths that submissive’s aren’t always masochist. I thought this topic deserved a more in depth discussion.
I’m a masochist. I get sexual pleasure from pain. That’s wired into me. I’m also submissive. It’s who I am. For me, these two things [...]

Identifying Fake Dominants and Posers

This week’s video tip is on Red Flags of Fake Dominants.
The question I was asked today is, “How do you identify fake Dominants and what are some red flags to be watchful of?”
First, what is a fake Dominant? A fake Dominant is someone who is just out for sex, fantasy and an easy lay. Fake [...]

The Value of Checklists

This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist.
If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t seen [...]

Collars

This week’s video tip is about collars.
Collars are a commonly discussed topic in BDSM. There is a wide range of information and opposing viewpoints on a lot of ideas surrounding collars and collaring. One of the ideas I’d like to cover today is the idea that a collar means more than a wedding ring and [...]

What is a Mentor?

This week’s video tip is about mentors.
A mentor is a person more experienced in certain aspects of life than you are. They are also more open to varying viewpoints, have a desire to teach and aide others. A mentor is a role model and a very special counselor to those they council. In business newcomers [...]

Your First Munch

This week’s video tip is about what to expect at your first munch.
So you are ready to venture into the great wide expanse of public life and meet people face to face. That’s great! A munch is a safe and fun environment to do that in. A munch is a meet and greet of kinky [...]

What Is Slave Training?

In this week’s video tip I talk about what training is to a submissive and the value it has to a D/s relationship.
When someone thinks of slave training, what is the first thing that pops into your mind? Is it a submissive on their knees going through the paces that their Dominant puts them? Is [...]