My Submissive Code of Ethics

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. I thought I would share it here so that you can perhaps get some ideas for developing your own code [...]

Add Cons, Classes and Events to your Training Resume

Your training resume should be growing in bulk and excellent information if you’ve been following along and developing your sections fully. We are now going to work on your  community exposure section.
What I mean by community exposure are all the classes, extended weekends, get aways and other events you’ve attended in your past that had [...]

Add Your Reading List to Your Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]

Develop Your Submission with a Training Resume

Using the posts and resources here at Submissive Guide you have tools necessary to start creating your Training Resume; a folder of all your past, present and future training as well as skills and preferences. It’s very helpful to know where you are lacking experience or developing your skills.
Here’s a list of posts already on [...]

Learn a New Skill to Enhance Your Service with Free Online Courses

There are many ways that submissives can learn new skills and training that will enhance what you can provide your Dominant. Just imagine being able to speak another language, or have secretarial skills. Perhaps learning gardening, technology or sewing? Your skills can be expanded endlessly and a lot of it for free.
Is there something you’ve [...]

The Value of Checklists

This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist.
If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t seen [...]

Mapping Out Your Ideal Submission

Continuing the work on your training resume, I’d like to talk about mapping out how you dream of your submission being. This is a discussion of ideals and dreams. You can be as fanciful as you want right now, we will narrow things down as we go along. There are 3 things I’d like to [...]

Recording Your Completed Training

Your Training Resume is a folder or binder with all of your training, history and experience in it, so that you can give it to a prospective Dominant or to keep a training history for yourself. It’s a novel concept for submissives and one that I’ve not seen so far.
Part of the Resume is to [...]

Recording Your Training History

Your training history is the catalog of the past relationships that you have had within a D/s dynamic. You will be documenting the training you received and list the basic development that you can recall being part of your service. If you have a long history with many dominants this could take awhile and be [...]

Importance of Needs

In the previous post about wants and needs you made a list of your wants and a list of your needs so that you had them defined for your training resume. In this essay I will share why needs are so important to your overall health and happiness in a relationship and why settling for [...]

Beginning Your Training Resume

A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Much like the training folders mentioned in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou you can build a file on yourself to offer your current or future dominant partner(s). Throughout [...]

Know What You Want, Learn What You Need

Wants and needs are very important to any relationship. When you start to understand who you are as a submissive, it’s time to figure out what you are looking for in a relationship.
Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it’s always present in their minds. The play, the sex, [...]