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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, it’s play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Play and Sex
Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

My Patreon page is where you can help support Submissive Guide on an ongoing basis, in exchange for some exclusive perks. Come see what rewards you can get for pennies a day.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

Be mindful of the information you know about someone else that’s kinky. Sometimes, things can seem so very innocuous that information can ‘slip’ out casually – we may innocently drop in the ears of others. The fact is they either teeter on outing someone or can flat-out out someone.

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Safety
Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships by Raven Kaldera is a collection of essays written by both masters and slaves who are involved in different types of relationships. Tequilarose provides a critical review.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Relationships, Views & More...
Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

What’s it like to discover BDSM later in life?

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Fear in Submission

Fear in Submission

Fear can be good, because it makes us take a moment and stop and think about what we’re about to do, especially when that thing we’re about to do is stepping out of our comfort zone. Making the decision to submit, is definitely one of those decisions.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth, Relationships
You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

There is this misconception that everyone shares everyone else in play or sex such as a party and that needs to stop.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Relationships
Things That Hinder You Getting to Know People At a Munch and How to Overcome Them

Things That Hinder You Getting to Know People At a Munch and How to Overcome Them

Here are a few of the common issues with munches that you can either adjust to or at least work around to try to make your nervous butt feel better at a munch and meeting people for the very first time.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
How to Start A New Local BDSM Group

How to Start A New Local BDSM Group

Last week, we heard from Kayla Lords in a week-long series about how to enter your local BDSM community. Here’s a link to the first post in that series. But what if you can’t find it or would like to start one of your own? I recently wrote about the difficulties some new BDSM community [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What You Can Expect at a Play Party/BDSM Dungeon

Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What You Can Expect at a Play Party/BDSM Dungeon

Welcome to part five in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What to Expect at a Munch

Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What to Expect at a Munch

Welcome to part four in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Welcome to part three in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area. [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters

Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters

Welcome to part two in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. You might like to read the previous post about using online resources to find kinksters. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: Finding Other Local Kinksters Using Online Resources

Entering the Community: Finding Other Local Kinksters Using Online Resources

Welcome to the first part in a series I hope will help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

I logged onto Fetlife one early Friday morning with a steamy cup of joe and saw this message straight away: I was there last night but didn’t get out of my truck. I was still in my work clothes and didn’t really know how to find you guys. Maybe I’ll try again next month. As [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
The Secrets to Writing a Successful BDSM Dating Profile

The Secrets to Writing a Successful BDSM Dating Profile

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/9/15 Using a dating site to find a partner that is interested in power exchange and BDSM is a difficult prospect. Many people abandon mainstream sites in hopes that kink social networks and other forums will provide them with a partner that is compatible and looking for the same kind [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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We Do Not Out Each Other: Protecting People’s Privacy

One of the biggest concerns anyone who’s a Dominant or a submissive in the BDSM lifestyle has is privacy. Although living in a D/s relationship or enjoying kinky fun may be an inherent part of who we are as individuals, what we do and what we enjoy is on the fringe of what’s considered “socially [...]

11 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
How The 50 Shades of Grey Series and Movie Have Impacted the BDSM Lifestyle

How The 50 Shades of Grey Series and Movie Have Impacted the BDSM Lifestyle

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/21/15 I had, for the longest time, an opinion that I was not going to write about or mention the “50 Shades of Grey” series on this site. I’ve never read them and have no desire to see the movie, but I have read countless reviews and read-alongs from others [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
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