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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Three Types of Parties Play parties — or dungeon parties — are parties where people in the Leather and BDSM scene can go to play, socialize, and watch. There are [...]

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-9-16 by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, [...]

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[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

Kayla Lords had an excellent series on Submissive Guide awhile ago about Entering the BDSM and D/s communities and I wanted to put it together for you all in one place. Download it today!

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Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Support me on Patreon! It’s no secret that keeping this site going costs money and while my passion for educating and supporting the BDSM community have not wavered, the income needed to continue to grow this site is on the rise. I have so many hopes and dreams and goals for Submissive Guide and I [...]

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‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

I’ll never forget during my first few months of being involved in the Lifestyle community, I ran into someone who frequented my back-then place of employment at a local play party. Personally, it didn’t faze me any at all due to my thinking – we’re at the same place pretty much for the same reason, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Safety
Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Ever since reading Real Service by Raven Kaldera, I’ve been strongly drawn to read more books by him. He’s phenomenal and knows what he’s talking about. I have recommended his books numerous times to others. He’s written about so many various topics, there’s something out there for everyone. Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships [...]

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Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/28/16 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Dear Mistress, . . . One in particular that often bothers me, the impact of the Internet on the lifestyle or the type of people who suddenly [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Fear in Submission

Fear in Submission

I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth, Relationships
You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/5/16 I don’t know about you, but I’m monogamous. I am not shared with anyone else and that suits me just fine. But if you go to any online discussion group you may get an impression that the opposite is true; that sharing your submissive with others in a play [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much. By choosing to live within the D/s or BDSM lifestyle [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Relationships
Things That Hinder You Getting to Know People At a Munch and How to Overcome Them

Things That Hinder You Getting to Know People At a Munch and How to Overcome Them

for the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/12/15 I talk about going to munches as a good first step into the lifestyle and there’s certainly a lot of good that can come from that. But when you are already nervous or shy, having a negative experience will make you feel like it just wasn’t worth it or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
How to Start A New Local BDSM Group

How to Start A New Local BDSM Group

Last week, we heard from Kayla Lords in a week-long series about how to enter your local BDSM community. Here’s a link to the first post in that series. But what if you can’t find it or would like to start one of your own? I recently wrote about the difficulties some new BDSM community [...]

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Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What You Can Expect at a Play Party/BDSM Dungeon

Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What You Can Expect at a Play Party/BDSM Dungeon

Welcome to part five in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What to Expect at a Munch

Entering the Community: Who You’ll Meet and What to Expect at a Munch

Welcome to part four in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Welcome to part three in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area. [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters

Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters

Welcome to part two in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. You might like to read the previous post about using online resources to find kinksters. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Entering the Community: Finding Other Local Kinksters Using Online Resources

Entering the Community: Finding Other Local Kinksters Using Online Resources

Welcome to the first part in a series I hope will help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

I logged onto Fetlife one early Friday morning with a steamy cup of joe and saw this message straight away: I was there last night but didn’t get out of my truck. I was still in my work clothes and didn’t really know how to find you guys. Maybe I’ll try again next month. As [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
The Secrets to Writing a Successful BDSM Dating Profile

The Secrets to Writing a Successful BDSM Dating Profile

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/9/15 Using a dating site to find a partner that is interested in power exchange and BDSM is a difficult prospect. Many people abandon mainstream sites in hopes that kink social networks and other forums will provide them with a partner that is compatible and looking for the same kind [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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We Do Not Out Each Other: Protecting People’s Privacy

One of the biggest concerns anyone who’s a Dominant or a submissive in the BDSM lifestyle has is privacy. Although living in a D/s relationship or enjoying kinky fun may be an inherent part of who we are as individuals, what we do and what we enjoy is on the fringe of what’s considered “socially [...]

11 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
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