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Submissive Self-Discovery Leads to Self-Worth

Submissive Self-Discovery Leads to Self-Worth

Self-worth is inherent in all of us. We gather our own opinions about ourselves and based on what we think other people think of us.  I had a tendency to rate myself, at say five or six on a scale from one to ten, in terms of how worthy I was. Worthy of happiness, success, joy, [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Spirituality
You Are Not Going To Hell: My Personal Thoughts on Balancing Christianity and Kink

You Are Not Going To Hell: My Personal Thoughts on Balancing Christianity and Kink

To be honest I never gave faith much thought when I discovered I was kinky. I had been drifting away from organized religion for years, but when I read on a blog (which I can’t recall now) that someone was having to come to terms with her Christianity and desires for kink/submission it made me [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Spirituality
A Great Example of a Slave’s Rosary

A Great Example of a Slave’s Rosary

On FetLife quite awhile back now, a slave posted her version of a rosary with her Master as the focus. As with any rosary or prayer beads, it is used in mediation and presents a spirituality in service that can be adopted and adapted to fit your relationship. I’ve always had a curiosity with religious [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Spirituality
Finding Your Spirituality In Service

Finding Your Spirituality In Service

A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it.  It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you. What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? –Submissive [...]

15 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Service, Spirituality

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Three Types of Parties Play parties — or dungeon parties — are parties where people in the Leather and BDSM scene can go to play, socialize, and watch. There are [...]

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-9-16 by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, [...]

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[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

Kayla Lords had an excellent series on Submissive Guide awhile ago about Entering the BDSM and D/s communities and I wanted to put it together for you all in one place. Download it today!

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Support me on Patreon! It’s no secret that keeping this site going costs money and while my passion for educating and supporting the BDSM community have not wavered, the income needed to continue to grow this site is on the rise. I have so many hopes and dreams and goals for Submissive Guide and I [...]

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‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

I’ll never forget during my first few months of being involved in the Lifestyle community, I ran into someone who frequented my back-then place of employment at a local play party. Personally, it didn’t faze me any at all due to my thinking – we’re at the same place pretty much for the same reason, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Safety
Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Ever since reading Real Service by Raven Kaldera, I’ve been strongly drawn to read more books by him. He’s phenomenal and knows what he’s talking about. I have recommended his books numerous times to others. He’s written about so many various topics, there’s something out there for everyone. Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Relationships, Views & More...
Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/28/16 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Dear Mistress, . . . One in particular that often bothers me, the impact of the Internet on the lifestyle or the type of people who suddenly [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Fear in Submission

Fear in Submission

I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth, Relationships
You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/5/16 I don’t know about you, but I’m monogamous. I am not shared with anyone else and that suits me just fine. But if you go to any online discussion group you may get an impression that the opposite is true; that sharing your submissive with others in a play [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much. By choosing to live within the D/s or BDSM lifestyle [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Relationships

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