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Talents and Skills

Unique and intriguing talents that submissives do in their relationship. You might be surprised with the interesting things you read about here.

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Learning Your Way Around the Kitchen-Homemade Pizza Dough and Pizza Sauce

Learning Your Way Around the Kitchen-Homemade Pizza Dough and Pizza Sauce

It was about a year or so ago that I got this idea to make homemade pizza one weekend when Daddy, Schnubbi, and I were all together. Don’t ask me where this idea came from. It just happened. Usually when this happens, all that matters is that I do it. While I was planning this [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: DIY, Service, Talents and Skills
Mama Vi Then and Now, right image courtesy of Mama Vi Johnson; left image courtesy of C. Creane Images; and edited by blyss

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

When I first came to the community, I, as well as others like me, was a bit of a unicorn. During that time, it wasn’t the norm to see younger people in the community – younger as in under 36 or so. Most of the people I knew were 40+, and there I was in [...]

Book Review: The Ritual of Dominance & Submission: A Guide to High Protocol Dominance & Submission

Book Review: The Ritual of Dominance & Submission: A Guide to High Protocol Dominance & Submission

One of the more selective skills of a D/s relationship is protocol. Many of the misconceptions is that it’s hard to do and that only the more serious power exchange relationships participate. KnyghtMare and I have some moderate protocol all the time since I love it and he likes control so anytime he gets opportunity [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews, Talents and Skills
Master’s Banquet – A formal D/s Feast

Master’s Banquet – A formal D/s Feast

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/28/13 This is a guest post from Slave Dove. I am unsure where it originated, but am sharing it here from a now defunct website. These dinners are what many would view as a “scene” but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical “use” it is formal [...]

Bootblacking and Why I Love It

Bootblacking and Why I Love It

This is a guest post by Red Vinyl Kitty. You can read about her life as a slave kitty at Sub Mission. I was approached by LunaKM a few months ago to write a guest post for her blog.  I do not usually do guest posts, but she wanted me to write one about my [...]

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Lessons in Submissive Speech 12: Don’t Use That Tone With Me

The last post in this series is not about speech but how we say things that speak a lot about our mood, impression of the situation and so much more – our tone.  Tone is also something precarious because you can be misunderstood by your tone alone. How many times have you had to reiterate [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Submissive Speech 11: Topics to Avoid with Other Submissives

If you get 2 submissives in a room together and it’s very likely that a discussion will take place about their Dominant partners. We sure love to talk about them, don’t we? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve talked about KnyghtMare at the Submissive Forum. It’s usually with pride and love that he [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Submissive Speech 10: Speaking with Service Persons

Think about the last time you went out to eat or stood in line at a check out counter. Do you remember looking at the service person who waited on you? Did you smile at them and greet them or did you stay on your cell phone and not even acknowledge them as they served [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Submissive Speech 9: Answering the Phone or Door

Sometimes we forget that speaking in a submissive manner could include moments we don’t know who is on the other end of the conversation. Answering the phone or the door is a process that has gotten far to sloppy lately. I hope that with this advice we can begin to correct that. At least at [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Lessons in Submissive Speech 8: Showing Gratitude

One of the most valuable things that I think any submissive should know is how to express gratitude in more than one way. I know I’ve taken a lot for granted when I was first starting out and exploring kink with anyone who was interested. Never once did I say thank you for it. I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Lessons in Submissive Speech 7: Polite Interruptions

In everyone’s daily exchanges with people there comes a time we will need to interrupt another person or persons to pass on information. For a polite and graceful submissive you should endeavor to not interrupt someone needlessly but to find an appropriate time to step into their presence. Oftentimes I am sent as a messenger  for my [...]

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Lessons in Submissive Speech 6: Answering in the Negative

Just as saying yes or answering in the affirmative can be done many ways, saying no has many ways you can say it also. When a submissive gives a negative answer it can be a simple “no” or it can be as elaborate as the Dominant wishes. Some Dominants do not allow the submissive to [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Lessons in Submissive Speech 5: Answering in the Positive

Saying yes is one of the most frequent phrases I say on a regular basis.  There are several ways you can express a “yes” response to your Dominant or others. When a submissive says “yes” it can be as simple or elaborate as the Dominant wishes. This depends on the formality of the relationship and [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Lessons in Submissive Speech 4: How to Apologize

The proper apology is an art, it really is. But before we put that together I’d like to cover the reason for apologizing in the first place. Apologizing is not admitting your intentional disobedience. It’s not about accepting the blame either. It is purely about acknowledging that you have displeased your Dominant in some way; [...]

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Lessons in Submissive Speech 3: Asking a Question

You should never be afraid to ask a question of your Dominant, however in certain circumstances there are inappropriate ways to ask questions and inappropriate questions. First, and I have a hard time at this one too, you shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders. It is not a submissive’s position to know why a Dominant wishes [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Lessons in Submissive Speech 2: Personal Introductions

Generally speaking, the first time you encounter someone in a BDSM context you will likely have to introduce yourself. We’ve all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression to make sure it’s a good one. I’m going to break this up into two separate sections. One for single submissives and [...]

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Lessons in Submissive Speech 1: Addressing Individuals

In a BDSM context, it’s more common to have to learn how to address someone than in a non-scene situation. How many times have you had conversations with service personnel or with people you encounter in your day to day without first asking them their name or how they wish to be addressed? It’s a [...]

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Introduction to Lessons in Submissive Speech Series

Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
An Introduction to Body Service

An Introduction to Body Service

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-5-11 One of the more intimate ways that we submissives can serve our Dominants is by learning and performing grooming duties usually left to themselves to do. It’s not as unusual as you might think. Upper class men and women of history used to have body servants and grooms to [...]

Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness

Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3-5-11 Over 6 years ago now, my perceptions of what a submissive was were still very shallow and incomplete. I believed that being submissive as a passive personality trait and it didn’t require a lot of ‘work’ on my part. Almost encouraging the laziness I had fostered in my marriage. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Talents and Skills
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