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Rituals and Routines

Rituals are specialized ways of doing things whereas a routine is a regular set pattern of behaviors. Pick up a few ideas of ritual and routine for your own life.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Expectations of Sex BDSM is not always about sex. BDSM is not synonymous with swinging, swapping, or Polyamory — although it’s possible for it to co-exist with these lifestyles. A [...]

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 2 of 7) – More Specific Guidelines

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Ambrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Did you miss part 1? Read it Now. Socializing & Networking Socializing takes place at muches, general meetings, runs, and parties. Munches are semi-public gatherings of BDSM enthusiasts for the [...]

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Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

A couple years ago, the MR and I decided to renew our wedding vows. We had been through a rocky start to our marriage and had transformed since originally marrying from a vanilla, egalitarian relationship to a kinky, Dominant and submissive one, and finally we had arrived at Master and slave. We felt at home [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
[Report] Writing Submissive Affirmations

[Report] Writing Submissive Affirmations

Check out my new short report on writing submissive affirmations! If you’ve struggled with creating positive reinforcement and motivations in your daily life and submission then writing affirmations and using them just could be your key to happy submitting! Pick it up now! Download Now!

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
How I Started a Simple BDSM Protocol, and How You Can Too!

How I Started a Simple BDSM Protocol, and How You Can Too!

I didn’t always consider myself a slave with protocol. I’ve been with KnyghtMare for over 10 years and it’s been a journey of discovery the whole way. The idea of protocol and ritual to enhance our relationship came about in fits and starts, in small suggestions and ideas but it has grown. And that’s the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/11/15 Often enough, rituals are reserved for “serious” M/s relationships and D/s that has gone 24/7. At least that’s what I pick up from the multitude of threads I read online and the people I talk to in groups. If you’ve read anything on this site before you’ll probably know [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines
Channeling Guilt with Housework

Channeling Guilt with Housework

An abusive childhood has made me incredibly prone to feeling guilty. Someone else can drop a glass and shatter it and I will twist the situation in my mind in such a way that I caused that to happen – it is my fault that the glass broke. I absorb that persons guilt as my [...]

12 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Rituals and Routines
How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

It’s often the case that protocol develops in D/s relationships that start out with a bit of structure to them, whether the relationship intended it or not. While there are some casual style relationships that have protocol, I haven’t seen a lot of it when a relaxed relationship is preferred. Now with that said, I [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
Master’s Banquet – A formal D/s Feast

Master’s Banquet – A formal D/s Feast

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/28/13 This is a guest post from Slave Dove. I am unsure where it originated, but am sharing it here from a now defunct website. These dinners are what many would view as a “scene” but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical “use” it is formal [...]

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Is an action that is repeated the same way each time, usually at some [...]

1 comment Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
SGBHC #9 | Your Favorite Submissive Ritual

SGBHC #9 | Your Favorite Submissive Ritual

Welcome everyone to the Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge (SGBHC)!  I am so thrilled to see you here!  First, the challenge… Submissive Challenge #9 Favorite Submissive Ritual Do you have a ritual that reminds you of your submission or your relationship dynamic each and every time you do it? How did it get started? What does [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Why Do Dominants Insist on Being Called Sir?

Why Do Dominants Insist on Being Called Sir?

Why do Dominants insist on being called Sir? That was a question posed not that long ago in an online community that I belong to. They wanted to know why so many insist on being called Sir. Was it a matter of respect the Dominant thought they had earned? Was it a matter of protocol? [...]

22 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Massage as Ritual

Massage as Ritual

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3-17-12 KnyghtMare enjoys a foot massage on what used to be a regular basis. Every Sunday night I would fill the plastic tub with hot water and salts to soak his feet before his massage. After they had soaked I would towel them off and then with massage oil or [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #9 | Your Favorite Submissive Ritual

One of the things that people love most about this site is gaining new knowledge and viewpoints.  I have taken it upon myself to organize a day to take place once a month that will encourage bloggers to challenge themselves and explore their submissive choices! Read all the important guidelines  and FAQ on the Blog Hop [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Hello :) simply put, I am not new to the BDSM lifestyle…but am very new to a serious D/s relationship. My Master has been wonderful when is comes to teaching me what his expectations are. I desperately want to do something special for him, a way to thank him for taking me on and all [...]

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An Introduction to Body Service

An Introduction to Body Service

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-5-11 One of the more intimate ways that we submissives can serve our Dominants is by learning and performing grooming duties usually left to themselves to do. It’s not as unusual as you might think. Upper class men and women of history used to have body servants and grooms to [...]

Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Throughout history people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, ceremony that comes from other parts [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
How to Create a Morning Ritual to Streamline Your Routine

How to Create a Morning Ritual to Streamline Your Routine

From Submissive Journal Prompts Do you have a morning ritual? Morning rituals are fantastic ways of setting routine and developing a focusing meditation bright and early in the day. I’ve had morning rituals off an on throughout my service and they are quite enjoyable. I’ve not maintained one since I became a stay at home [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
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