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All this month we have showcased a more humble, submissive way to verbally present yourself to your Dominant and in public. This concludes the series with a look back on what was covered and some last minute thoughts. Introduction Addressing Individuals Personal Introductions Asking a Question How to Apologize Answering in the Positive Answering in [...]

Sometimes we forget that speaking in a submissive manner could include moments we don’t know who is on the other end of the conversation. Answering the phone or the door is a process that has gotten far to sloppy lately. I hope that with this advice we can begin to correct that. At least at [...]

One of the most valuable things that I think any submissive should know is how to express gratitude in more than one way. I know I’ve taken a lot for granted when I was first starting out and exploring kink with anyone who was interested. Never once did I say thank you for it. I [...]

In everyone’s daily exchanges with people there comes a time we will need to interrupt another person or persons to pass on information. For a polite and graceful submissive you should endeavor to not interrupt someone needlessly but to find an appropriate time to step into their presence. Oftentimes I am sent as a messenger  for my [...]

Just as saying yes or answering in the affirmative can be done many ways, saying no has many ways you can say it also. When a submissive gives a negative answer it can be a simple “no” or it can be as elaborate as the Dominant wishes. Some Dominants do not allow the submissive to [...]

Saying yes is one of the most frequent phrases I say on a regular basis.  There are several ways you can express a “yes” response to your Dominant or others. When a submissive says “yes” it can be as simple or elaborate as the Dominant wishes. This depends on the formality of the relationship and [...]

The proper apology is an art, it really is. But before we put that together I’d like to cover the reason for apologizing in the first place. Apologizing is not admitting your intentional disobedience. It’s not about accepting the blame either. It is purely about acknowledging that you have displeased your Dominant in some way; [...]

You should never be afraid to ask a question of your Dominant, however in certain circumstances there are inappropriate ways to ask questions and inappropriate questions. First, and I have a hard time at this one too, you shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders. It is not a submissive’s position to know why a Dominant wishes [...]

Generally speaking, the first time you encounter someone in a BDSM context you will likely have to introduce yourself. We’ve all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression to make sure it’s a good one. I’m going to break this up into two separate sections. One for single submissives and [...]

In a BDSM context, it’s more common to have to learn how to address someone than in a non-scene situation. How many times have you had conversations with service personnel or with people you encounter in your day to day without first asking them their name or how they wish to be addressed? It’s a [...]