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That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

If you don’t use your safeword, you could be in for more than just an overly sore backside. A safeword is your lifeline and your partner trusts you to use it if you need to. TR shares a personal story where playing with no safewords went wrong.

Comments Off Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

There are a lot of risks that comes with meeting people online. Tequilarose shares a lesson she picked up from reading “Tender Mercies” by Kitty Thomas about online safety and abusive situations.

Comments Off Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

This month’s free report is a compilation of essays from Submissive Guide about parenting and BDSM, children in the home and navigating quiet play and so many other concerns about being parents and also in a D/s relationship.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships, Safety

Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

What does it mean to hit the wall? Let’s explore how deep the rabbit hole goes and become more aware of our own limits during play.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

Be mindful of the information you know about someone else that’s kinky. Sometimes, things can seem so very innocuous that information can ‘slip’ out casually – we may innocently drop in the ears of others. The fact is they either teeter on outing someone or can flat-out out someone.

Comments Off Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Safety
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 16 – Should You Try to Make Money with Your Blog?

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 16 – Should You Try to Make Money with Your Blog?

A blog may feel like easy money, but making the decision to put ads on your blog may have a negative effect and might not even be allowed by your blog host. Knowing the facts and making a decision before you begin is an important step in creating your blog.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: 31 Days of Submissive Journaling, Beginner Basics, Safety
The Thrill of Knife Play

The Thrill of Knife Play

Knife play runs the edge of what could be construed as safe because, well, knives. The most important thing to know about knife play is that while it is a powerfully sexy tool, it is best used in the hands of an experienced person with an experienced couple.

Comments Off Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Beyond Limits: The Illusion of Safety

Beyond Limits: The Illusion of Safety

The only true limitations are those fundamental values that you carry at your core. The inviolate lines that you will not cross for to do so you believe would compromise who you believe yourself to be. That final line in the sand.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Safety
I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

For fear of angering him I submit and abide by this punishment, leaving me more stressed I have fallen in love with my dom, I am not allowed to call him by name. I feel I m pushed up against a wall at all times. What should I do?

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix – Being Under the Influence Negates Consent

Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix – Being Under the Influence Negates Consent

Just like I won’t get in a car with someone who’s had too much to drink, I’m definitely not letting someone who’s intoxicated come at me with a flogger or tie me up, either.

3 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

Certain things are expected to happen when you have said your safeword, what are they?

13 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How Do I Ask for More Aftercare?

How Do I Ask for More Aftercare?

I don’t know how to talk about my sub drop without taking up more of his time and becoming more trouble than I’m worth….

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Safety
Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

My opinion on whether safewords should be allowed during punishment (for misbehavior).

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
photo by winnifredxoxo (https://www.flickr.com/photos/61056899@N06/) CC BY 2.0

The Checks and Balances in Power Exchange

Being a smart, capable woman whose self-awareness has led her to identify wholly as a slave, I have set up some checks and balances in my life that help me feel comfortable pushing myself further in my Power Exchange dynamic.

8 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
When Play is No Longer Play: Recognizing Abuse in a BDSM Relationship

When Play is No Longer Play: Recognizing Abuse in a BDSM Relationship

I am going to tell you, on no uncertain terms that if your dominant is hurting you out of anger this is abusive.

8 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Safety
DIY: Knife & Blood Play

DIY: Knife & Blood Play

Knife and Blood play, as you can probably guess, comes with a lot of intrinsic danger – so before embarking in this type of play, you need to make sure that you have an adequate safety kit ready.

8 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

As long as your relationship (both in play and out of play) follows SSC standards, then you have a healthy relationship, and there is nothing that detracts from the fact that I believe men and women deserve equal rights.

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Safety
Sub Drop From Afar: Managing Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship

Sub Drop From Afar: Managing Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship

If you are in a long distance relationship, this becomes an even more pressing topic of conversation if you are still participating in intensive play.

3 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
photo by winnifredxoxo (https://www.flickr.com/photos/61056899@N06/) CC BY 2.0

A Mental Predicament: Balancing Wants and Needs

The transition to 24/7 D/s turned out to be much more challenging for us.

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
Below the Mood of Blue, by charmed blyss

Below the Mood of Blue: One Girl’s Experience With Depression

As a slave, it’s my responsibility to take care of me. A depressed slave isn’t able to give the best of service and a dead slave can’t serve at all.

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Personal Growth, Safety
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