Safety
Warnings and protection of your personal safety.
By nan {SL} on May 10, 2010
Did you miss part 1? You can read it here. In Part 1, we looked at the information that you should try to gather when starting to interact with an unknown Dom/me. However, there are other warning signs that can appear once you start to develop a relationship with your new Dom/me. Evaluating your training [...]
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By nan {SL} on May 7, 2010
Part 1: Information Please! If you’re a new submissive this lifestyle may seem overwhelming at first. A submissive I know terms it ‘the new submissive smell’. Dom/mes sense ‘new blood’, and swarm like piranhas to interact with, play with or train the new submissive in the group. Dom/mes may contact you online or meet you [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged asking questions, be cautious, information, new relationships, predators, protect yourself, references, SSC, warning signs |
By Rayne on April 26, 2010
I said before I’m a “no limits” slave. Bring on the barrage of “What if your master wanted to cut your arm off?” type questions. There are few scenarios related to what most would consider safe and sane kink that I will attempt to avoid, but when it comes right down to it, if The [...]
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By lunaKM on February 13, 2010
This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]
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By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
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By lunaKM on September 5, 2009
This week’s video post is about an issue that needs more awareness. I had someone ask me for some advice through my email the other day and it went something like this: I just started exploring my kinky side and I’ve only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started [...]
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By lunaKM on August 8, 2009
This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]
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By lunaKM on April 13, 2009
If you intend to venture into play on a casual level or at play parties and clubs as a single submissive you need to arrive prepared for play. This includes having some of your own toys so that you don’t rely on Dominants being gracious enough to use their toys on you. It is not [...]
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By lunaKM on April 7, 2009
This week’s video tip is on Red Flags of Fake Dominants. The question I was asked today is, “How do you identify fake Dominants and what are some red flags to be watchful of?” First, what is a fake Dominant? A fake Dominant is someone who is just out for sex, fantasy and an easy [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Relationships, Safety, Video Posts | Tagged changing, chat, common sense, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, experience, fake dominants, fantasy, first meetings, friends, information, on a break, online, play, predators, real life, red flags, relationship, rt, rules, safe, safe call, safety advice, sex, share, submission, tricks, value |
By lunaKM on April 2, 2009
There are mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor, but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not [...]
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By lunaKM on February 20, 2009
Predators and abusive Dominants are everywhere. I’ve seen them and been subjected to them in a casual relationship. Thankfully I escaped into a kind and loving relationship that I wouldn’t trade for the world. But how do you know the person you are with is an abuser and not just a strict Dominant? I’m going [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Safety | Tagged abuse, abusive relationships, assistance, BDSM, clothing, connection, danger, dangers, dating, Dom, domestic violence project, dominant, dominants, essays, family, guilt, help, internet, learning, leather, limits, love, national leather association, needs, play, predators, red flags, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, sex, support, trust, warning signs, warnings |
By lunaKM on February 18, 2009
As a novice submissive in this technology age you typically explore submission online in chat room and in instant messaging. There is nothing wrong with this avenue for dipping your toe in the water. There are, however, very real dangers that predators use to capture novices and can do more harm to your curiosity than [...]
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