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Book Review: Socrates Inspires Cherry to Blossom (The Online Dom)

Everyone is going to start thinking that Red Phoenix has me on her payroll considering all the recent reviews of her books. I’m just one of those people who when they come across something worth reading, I can’t keep it to myself, which is exactly why I’m sharing with you today “Socrates Inspires Cherry to [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Online Submission, Relationships, Reviews
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit, Relationships
How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

“I want my Dominant to spank me more.” “How can I tell him I need more praise and approval without topping from the bottom?” “I need more attention, how can I tell him without being pushy?” “Can I tell him I love him and still be submissive? “How do I tell him that my needs [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Domifriends: The Best of Both Worlds

Domifriends: The Best of Both Worlds

Given that it’s February and the world around us has been saturated with heart-shaped balloons, greeting cards and overly expensive roses, I thought it might be a good time to discuss one way of seeing a D/s relationship.  Does this apply to every D/s relationship?  Certainly not.  D/s relationships are like zebras; no two look the [...]

2 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
What a Romantic Dominant/submissive Relationship Looks Like

What a Romantic Dominant/submissive Relationship Looks Like

KnyghtMare and I get lost in romance sometimes. The love we have for each other manifests in affection, mushy moments where we can only say how much we love each other and that overwhelming sense of joy that comes from a strong romance.  For us romance is a part of our M/s relationship. Without knowing [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Why A Punishment Dynamic May be Just What You Need

Why A Punishment Dynamic May be Just What You Need

As a novice looking for a relationship it is a good thing to know if discipline and punishment is something you are looking for. The punishment I’m talking about today is correction for infractions, or getting into trouble. It’s not about the playtime activities which can be called punishment also.  So, thinking about your current [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant

Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant

People often misunderstand how relationship communication works because they may have had such poor examples or think that coercing or manipulating someone is par for the course. You don’t want to tease someone, push them to get angry or jealous with you in hopes that the ensuing fight ends with hot and steamy make up [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas!

Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas!

This is a guest post by sub2JB. Most adults over the age of 21 already know that a trip to Las Vegas can yield any number of experiences, mostly depending on what you’re looking for. Las Vegas is one of the few places in the world where you can literally say “anything is possible.” It’s [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/12/13 I’ve noticed a lot of questions in FetLife recently (and almost always) about how to maintain the mindset in a 24/7 relationship. I’ve not responded to these there because I’ve created this article as my reply. The advice that the people have received may or may not help them. [...]

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

This is a guest post by Shahjahani a personal friend and Hospice Nurse. “Grief is a journey, not something you get over” Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Grief can be experienced for many reasons, not just the loss of a loved one. Grief is not just related to the loss of a person’s physical presence. Grief [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Fear

Fear

This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. For Master. When I used to say “Oh I want someone who can push me.. who doesn’t stop when I say stop.. who does what they want and aren’t guided by MY reactions”, I can honestly say that I never believed such a person existed. I [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Write an Online BDSM Dating Profile That Gets Results!

Write an Online BDSM Dating Profile That Gets Results!

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/24/13 Ever since the advent of the Internet, people have been hooking up via technology. A whole new world opened up for people who were shy, not a part of a smaller community or felt like they couldn’t find a date anywhere. For many people who date online, they will [...]

Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/3/13 Death. It is going to happen to all of us. It’s a natural part of life. But we avoid talking about it more than anything else. Dealing with a death of a loved one would go a lot smoother if we knew what their final wishes were, right? Do [...]

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit, Mindset, Relationships, Service
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Keys to a Successful Relationship-Transparency is Like a Brick Wall

Keys to a Successful Relationship-Transparency is Like a Brick Wall

This is the last in my series about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. Up to this point, I have talked about how important communication, honesty, and trust is to a relationship. For this last article, I will be talking about the importance of transparency in relationships. I saved this one for [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

4 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
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