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How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Keys to a Successful Relationship-Transparency is Like a Brick Wall

Keys to a Successful Relationship-Transparency is Like a Brick Wall

This is the last in my series about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. Up to this point, I have talked about how important communication, honesty, and trust is to a relationship. For this last article, I will be talking about the importance of transparency in relationships. I saved this one for [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Submission
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships, Safety, Submission
Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

I don’t know about you, but when I was child, I didn’t always think it was all that easy. I remember grownups all around me telling me how “easy I had it” and to “just wait until I became an adult” because that’s when life would start getting hard. I would always look at them [...]

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Submission
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Submission
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
When Owner’s Home Grows

When Owner’s Home Grows

To look at perhaps a more advanced topic that also does not get a lot of play when we are speaking about those of us in 24/7 service arrangements with children present; this month we are going to talk about Homes with multiple s-types and D-types. By far and away not a common arrangement, there [...]

2 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Relationships
Having Enough Love for More than Just One

Having Enough Love for More than Just One

I was on Tumblr one morning and I came across a picture of Johnny Depp and something he had said. Now, I had seen this particular picture several times and thought nothing of it in the past, but this last time I stumbled across it, I got thinking. The more I thought about this quote, [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Dominant, a Bully?

Ask lunaKM – Dominant, a Bully?

I have been in my first D/s relationship for the past 6 months.My Sir and I don’t live together yet but that is the plan for the future, although I am with him whenever I am not working.  There are a few things that are bothering me and I would like to know if these [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

I was going to do another Single in the Scene post, had been kicking it around, but then last week, I felt something else. And this week because this ‘something’ else is back, I’ve decided to go with this… A slave’s longing. A longing is not a frenzy, though it’s quite possible that the feeling [...]

10 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
How to Move On When The Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Poly & Territorial Response

Ask lunaKM – Poly & Territorial Response

I am in a poly relationship with my partner and I really care for his other partner. For the most part, I am happy for all aspects of their relationship. However, I recently learned that he used nipple clamps that we had purchased together on her and this triggered an unexpected reaction from me. I [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

My question is how do i learn to be great for a Master seeing that i am a man. Women have so many advantages to pleasing their Master than i do. Can you give me some pointers? Thank you. I’m not really sure what advantages that are uniquely female that don’t have a male counterpart. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play/Scene, Relationships
The Ring and the Collar

The Ring and the Collar

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships

SGBHC #18 – Poly Dynamics

Note: Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge is retiring. Participation is low and I would like to devote my efforts to things that will engage readers. I want to thank everyone who has participated and made the Challenge interesting. Don’t be dismayed there will be plenty of opportunities to participate on the site in the future! This will be the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Entitled

Ask lunaKM – Entitled

Respectful Greetings Luna. I have a question. Currently involved/owned by a man who cant seem to focus on me long enough for us to build any kind of bond let alone any trust or relationship other then sexual, I tried to explain to him respectfully what I need in our D/s. However, It seems that [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #18 – Poly Dynamics

Note: Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge is retiring. Participation is low and I would like to devote my efforts to things that will engage readers. I want to thank everyone who has participated and made the Challenge interesting. Don’t be dismayed there will be plenty of opportunities to participate on the site in the future! This will be the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

Ask lunaKM – Dealing with Stress in a Relationship

Today’s question is about handling when the D/s is shelved due to external (or internal) stress. Hi Luna, I wanted to ask you about when a relationship is going through a rough patch, and neither partner can seem to find it within them to fulfill their previous D/s roles. My Sir is dealing with a [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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