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BDSM and Kids: How Your Kink May Change Over the Years

BDSM and Kids: How Your Kink May Change Over the Years

like a non-kinky relationship, your desire for and ability to have sex will change through the different stages of parenting. Don’t worry or freak out. Realize this is normal, and if you’re determined to enjoy as much kink as possible, get creative and be patient with yourself and your partner.

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: When Kids Ask Awkward Questions

BDSM and Kids: When Kids Ask Awkward Questions

As a kinkster, there’s a chance that, eventually, they’ll see or hear something and ask you about it. You’ve answered questions about poop, penises, and what those ducks were doing to one another in the park (or was that just me?). You’ve got this.

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

Over the past few years, Kayla found certain things help her feel submissive, enjoy kinky sex, and even have BDSM scenes as a parent. Here’s some tips for your own playtime.

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BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

When you’re a parent, the switch between roles is more frequent and more exhausting. It’s important to realize, though, that it’s normal, and with a few tips and tricks, you can handle the transitions between submissive life and parenting life.

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

Yes, you can be a parent and a kinkster at the same time. Let’s debunk some of the things people believe about why you can’t be both.

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
[Freebie] Writing a D/s Contract

[Freebie] Writing a D/s Contract

Today I’m sharing with you all the information I know about D/s contracts, from the whys and hows to the minute details of what happens once it’s signed. I also include an example contract for you to customize your own.

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
How Do I Help My Dom Give Me What I Need

How Do I Help My Dom Give Me What I Need

Are you both new to BDSM or D/s and want to know how to deepen your relationship and give each other what you want and need? Great advice is waiting for you.

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships by Raven Kaldera is a collection of essays written by both masters and slaves who are involved in different types of relationships. Tequilarose provides a critical review.

Comments Off Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Relationships, Views & More...

[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

Three challenges that come about after rules are selected and you are practicing them or have had them for a long time.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Breaking up is traumatic and should be managed like grief and loss. It can’t be rushed and everyone deals with it differently. But as long as you have patience you can help your partner make it out the other side.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
On Multiple Dominants

On Multiple Dominants

There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. What is less visible but equally common is the identical phenomenon within submissives.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

There are a lot of people curious about collaring ceremonies and the such, and since we had a pretty open Ceremony of Roses, I have decided to share the ceremony itself.

Comments Off Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

When looking for that compatible partner to spend your life with, determining face to face if they are attractive, how well you get along and many other factors is an important early step; even if you plan to continue discussions online after meeting.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Fear in Submission

Fear in Submission

Fear can be good, because it makes us take a moment and stop and think about what we’re about to do, especially when that thing we’re about to do is stepping out of our comfort zone. Making the decision to submit, is definitely one of those decisions.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth, Relationships
The Art of Apology: Receiving an apology when you don’t think one is necessary

The Art of Apology: Receiving an apology when you don’t think one is necessary

Maybe you know a frequent apologizer, or maybe you’ve been surprised, but at some point in your life, you’ve probably had someone tell you, “Hey, I’m sorry!” and your immediate response was, “What on earth are you apologizing for?”

Comments Off Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

For fear of angering him I submit and abide by this punishment, leaving me more stressed I have fallen in love with my dom, I am not allowed to call him by name. I feel I m pushed up against a wall at all times. What should I do?

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

I am looking for opinions on whether or not poly means both sides of the slash should be able to have other partners.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

It’s never easy being single and knowing you want to find a Dominant partner adds to the mix of things to look for in a partner that often narrows the pool. But with these 5 tips on selecting Dominants, you’ll have a better understanding and hopefully renewed inspiration for your own dating endeavors.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Mama Vi Then and Now, right image courtesy of Mama Vi Johnson; left image courtesy of C. Creane Images; and edited by blyss

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

Maturity ripens a slave in the most delectable way. Learn about Mama Vi and her confidence in Leather as an older slave.

The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

50/50 isn’t the balance of a TPE relationship. Each role gives 100%.

4 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
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