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So You Want to Share Your Kink with Your Vanilla Partner

This is a guest post by Boundobedience.  I read a lot of questions and answers from people who are into BDSM and are with people who may or may not also be into BDSM as well. There are two groups that I generally see. Well, three, but the group that successful manages to convert their [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/01/14 It’s common for relationships that are D/s in nature to start out in the bedroom and then slowly move to fill part or all of your life. But the daunting task of adjusting to that transition is enough to scare people away from ever doing it or from maintaining [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
You Can Not Make Someone Be a Dominant

You Can Not Make Someone Be a Dominant

I’ve written on the site about how you can work with the partner you have to bring out their Dominance or feel submissive in a subtle way and because of that I have received a lot of messages of frustrated people trying to make their partner dominate them. The scenario seems to be the same, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

Dolly Learns To Balance Kink and Everyday Life

This is a guest post by Dolly. My wanderings into BDSM and Dom/sub space started a few years ago with my partner, initially as a within-bedroom-limits play. In a whirlwind of exploration, delicious pain, laughter and the most deviant of confessions, we now find ourselves in a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship. As rewarding, grounding and indulgent [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
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Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For?

Weeding through the number of messages in your inbox asking to get to know you better is a daunting task to most single people, and being submissive looking for a Dominant is no different. Well, perhaps it’s a little different. The compatibility that you are looking for as a submissive is more specific and challenging. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
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Book Review: Socrates Inspires Cherry to Blossom (The Online Dom)

Everyone is going to start thinking that Red Phoenix has me on her payroll considering all the recent reviews of her books. I’m just one of those people who when they come across something worth reading, I can’t keep it to myself, which is exactly why I’m sharing with you today “Socrates Inspires Cherry to [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Online Submission, Relationships, Reviews
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit, Relationships
How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

“I want my Dominant to spank me more.” “How can I tell him I need more praise and approval without topping from the bottom?” “I need more attention, how can I tell him without being pushy?” “Can I tell him I love him and still be submissive? “How do I tell him that my needs [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Domifriends: The Best of Both Worlds

Domifriends: The Best of Both Worlds

Given that it’s February and the world around us has been saturated with heart-shaped balloons, greeting cards and overly expensive roses, I thought it might be a good time to discuss one way of seeing a D/s relationship.  Does this apply to every D/s relationship?  Certainly not.  D/s relationships are like zebras; no two look the [...]

2 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
What a Romantic Dominant/submissive Relationship Looks Like

What a Romantic Dominant/submissive Relationship Looks Like

KnyghtMare and I get lost in romance sometimes. The love we have for each other manifests in affection, mushy moments where we can only say how much we love each other and that overwhelming sense of joy that comes from a strong romance.  For us romance is a part of our M/s relationship. Without knowing [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Why A Punishment Dynamic May be Just What You Need

Why A Punishment Dynamic May be Just What You Need

As a novice looking for a relationship it is a good thing to know if discipline and punishment is something you are looking for. The punishment I’m talking about today is correction for infractions, or getting into trouble. It’s not about the playtime activities which can be called punishment also.  So, thinking about your current [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant

Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant

People often misunderstand how relationship communication works because they may have had such poor examples or think that coercing or manipulating someone is par for the course. You don’t want to tease someone, push them to get angry or jealous with you in hopes that the ensuing fight ends with hot and steamy make up [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas!

Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas!

This is a guest post by sub2JB. Most adults over the age of 21 already know that a trip to Las Vegas can yield any number of experiences, mostly depending on what you’re looking for. Las Vegas is one of the few places in the world where you can literally say “anything is possible.” It’s [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/12/13 I’ve noticed a lot of questions in FetLife recently (and almost always) about how to maintain the mindset in a 24/7 relationship. I’ve not responded to these there because I’ve created this article as my reply. The advice that the people have received may or may not help them. [...]

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

This is a guest post by Shahjahani a personal friend and Hospice Nurse. “Grief is a journey, not something you get over” Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Grief can be experienced for many reasons, not just the loss of a loved one. Grief is not just related to the loss of a person’s physical presence. Grief [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Fear

Fear

This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. For Master. When I used to say “Oh I want someone who can push me.. who doesn’t stop when I say stop.. who does what they want and aren’t guided by MY reactions”, I can honestly say that I never believed such a person existed. I [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Write an Online BDSM Dating Profile That Gets Results!

Write an Online BDSM Dating Profile That Gets Results!

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/24/13 Ever since the advent of the Internet, people have been hooking up via technology. A whole new world opened up for people who were shy, not a part of a smaller community or felt like they couldn’t find a date anywhere. For many people who date online, they will [...]

Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/3/13 Death. It is going to happen to all of us. It’s a natural part of life. But we avoid talking about it more than anything else. Dealing with a death of a loved one would go a lot smoother if we knew what their final wishes were, right? Do [...]

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
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