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My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

(Disclosure: I first published this on EdenCafe.com. ) My first experience with ass to mouth sex was a huge surprise. I was playing around with someone, and I said something to the effect of, “kiss my ass” as a way to disagree with something he said, and he rolled me over, pinned me down and [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Sex and Sexuality
The Master’s Gift of Orgasm

The Master’s Gift of Orgasm

As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded about the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality, Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving!

Ask lunaKM – Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving!

Master and i have been together about a year (known each other for many more). He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Because of past experiences, i have very serious issues with this. i have, of course, shared these issues with Master. Unfortunately, this is something He very much wants. i told Him [...]

20 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Sex and Sexuality
Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

BDSM and Sex Sex and BDSM They do not have to go together, did you know that? While much of what we do in the bedroom can be considered sexual or sensual in nature it does not mean that you have to engage in sexual contact during play. Oftentimes during negotiation people will forget the [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality

Ask lunaKM | The Effects of Fisting

SehAnru has retired from writing at Submissive Guide while her life gets really busy. We wish her all the best. I’ll be answering your questions until someone else applies for the position. Ask me Anything! I was curious about the long term effect of fisting or even multiple fingers/larger toys in the vagina? I have [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Sex and Sexuality
How to Talk Dirty

How to Talk Dirty

My first experience with anything sex was through porn. The girls of porn taught me how sex might be for me. And so when it came time to have sex for the very first time I tried to copy them. At least their dirty talk anyway. But it was clunky and uncomfortable and odd feeling. [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality
Self Love in a D/s Relationship

Self Love in a D/s Relationship

Before I entered a D/s relationship masturbation was a regular recreational activity for me. It was also private. Even when I was married I didn’t masturbate in front of him or let him know when I was taking care of myself. It just wasn’t something I shared. Neither did he. And then I committed myself [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Sex and Sexuality
Masturbation: When It Becomes Not So Private Anymore

Masturbation: When It Becomes Not So Private Anymore

Introducing a new contributor here at Submissive Guide: BGtreasure! The views in this article are mine and mine alone unless otherwise stated. So lets start out with the definition of masturbation from the Dictionary.com: the stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals, especially to orgasm; sexual self-gratification. the stimulation, by manual or other means exclusive [...]

4 comments Posted by bgtreasure | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality
Learning to Ask for an Orgasm

Learning to Ask for an Orgasm

In D/s sexuality one of the more common rules is that the Dominant controls the orgasms and sexual release of the submissive. Some require that the submissive not even touch themselves without the say so of the Dominant. In this style of power exchange it is familiar territory that the submissive will learn how to [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Sex and Sexuality
A Safer Kinky Sex How-To

A Safer Kinky Sex How-To

Many of the BDSM activities we may engage in are inherently sexual in nature, even if no sex actually occurs. Being aware and using safe sex barriers when necessary is your protection from disease and infection. I’m amazed with casual play partners that don’t employ these simple techniques to protect themselves and future partners.  But [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality, Stay Safe
The 6 Most Common STDs

The 6 Most Common STDs

Everytime we talk about sex and sexually related activities such as many of the BDSM and kinky play we do it’s important, if not imperative, that we are safe and aware of the most common sexually transmitted diseases and infections you can get. You should have tests for STDs regularly if you choose to have [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality, Stay Safe
The Female of the Species

The Female of the Species

I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first  signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after [...]

8 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Sex and Sexuality
Anal Play: Beginner to Stretch in No Time

Anal Play: Beginner to Stretch in No Time

I never used to like anal sex.  I wouldn’t let anyone near that part of my body.  There were all sorts of worries and thoughts running through my mind every time someone tried, from concerns about pain, to concerns about cleanliness, to not understanding, on a personal level, how stimulation to this part of the [...]

20 comments Posted by Rayne Millaray | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality
The Myth of a Slut

The Myth of a Slut

This is a guest post by Slut M as a response to SubWise #6 about BDSM Myths. According to the mythological story, a slut is a downtrodden woman who by nature or by circumstances is propelled to debase her body in sexual desires. And so the story goes: these sexual desires control her and her [...]

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality
Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality
5 Ways to Bring Out Your Dominance In Bed

5 Ways to Bring Out Your Dominance In Bed

This may seem like a really odd topic to be posting in a submissive blog, but there is reason. I’ve had a question recently from a submissive woman who has been asked on occasion to be assertive and dominant in bed by her Dominant. She says she can’t connect with that because she is submissive [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality
What Is Polyamory Anyway?

What Is Polyamory Anyway?

Today’s post comes from May (follow her @readheadgirl) a writer and artist. For the longest time when I heard “polyamory,” I thought of hippies in the 70s having orgies at drug parties. I blame my misconception on why I took so long to realize that I am a polyamorous person. Like me, many people have [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Sex and Sexuality
The Roundtable: Polyamory

The Roundtable: Polyamory

Every so often I want to open up the blog for you to share and teach me on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep coming back to [...]

How to Beg When Asked

How to Beg When Asked

Begging is an art form for submissives. Each of us has our own talent or lack thereof in this area. For some it is part of humiliation, or just every day activities. There are different approaches to begging. Verbal Approach Master insists that I beg for a lot of things and I think that most [...]

28 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality

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