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BDSM Glossary

Every good resource needs a glossary. This site and the Kink Lifestyle has a jargon all its own. This section helps to de-cloak some of the words that can confuse newcomers to BDSM.

Other Online BDSM Glossaries Include:

Dictionary of BDSM Terms
On Wikipedia
Different Equals Glossary
Perverted Glossary

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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

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What is a Scene?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A very commonplace word in BDSM discussions is the word ‘scene’ but rarely do we define what that is with novices. Also, experienced people take for granted some of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What are Red Flags?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. When discussing potential dating partners or relationships it is often a common question to ask if there are any red flags about the person that you feel or have [...]

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What is a Collar? What Does it Mean to be Collared?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A common question with novices is what is being collared, what does it mean? Is it like a wedding ring or something more? Something different altogether? First, some basic [...]

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What is Boot Blacking?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. One of the specialized talents that some submissives and slaves pick up is boot blacking. It holds its tradition in the leather community as an honorable service to a [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What is Non-sexual Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. If somebody said to you that they only wanted to have non-sexual play, how would you interpret this? Does it mean no intercourse but oral is ok? Does it [...]

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What are Brats and Smart-Assed Masochists?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. brat: A “bratty” submissive has a reputation for talking back, being disrespectful or mildly disobedient. On the surface, this is a negative quality in a submissive; however, a certain amount of [...]

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What does “Checking In” During a Scene Mean?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Using a check in during a scene is a responsibility of the Dominant to make sure things are going as they should. Often times this is a simple, “are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What is Punishment?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Depending on who you talk to, punishment can mean different things. Some people have different meaning if you capitalize the P or if you don’t. Others use it synonymous with play. [...]

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What is Protocol?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. High protocol, moderate protocol, low protocol, even special protocol; these words are all used to describe something that seems mythical to many and commonplace for the few. So, what [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
What is a Bottom?

What is a Bottom?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A person who receives spankings, floggings, or other forms of stimulation in situations which specifically exclude power exchange. For example, a masochist may be interested in receiving some kind of stimulation but [...]

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What is a Collar?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Considered by some to be the greatest symbol of their surrender, a collar is the outward symbol of their status as someone’s property. Collars are worn to denote submissiveness [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What is a Contract?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A contract is a written document between two or more parties. They are typically legally binding. In a D/s relationship contracts are used to outline the specifics of the [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
What is Discipline?

What is Discipline?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Discipline has two distinct definitions in relation to BDSM. Discipline is the part of training that is a preventative correction of behavior. You can undergo discipline to keep focused [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
What is a Munch?

What is a Munch?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A munch is a casual social gathering in the BDSM community usually in a public place like a cafe or restaurant. That is the basic definition, but these meetings [...]

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What is Edgeplay?

What is Edgeplay?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Edgeplay has three definitions. They both apply at the same time so if you are having an edge play discussion, make sure you know which definition you are using. [...]

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What is a 24/7 D/s (M/s) Relationship?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. When you hear the phrase 24/7/365 you know that it means all the time, or in retail speak that they never close. Used in the Dominant/submissive context it means [...]

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What is a Switch?

What is a Switch?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. What is a switch? A switch is someone that can participate in BDSM as a top or as a bottom depending on the situation or mood of the individual. [...]

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