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BDSM Fundamentals

You’ll learn a lot about how to explore BDSM from a novice viewpoint, Safety is emphasized here. This category is for the play aspects of kink – the rope bondage, spanking, pain play sensations that we tend to encompass in kinky sex.

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Wax Play Review and Thoughts

Wax Play Review and Thoughts

Let’s share a few, quick, thoughts and bits of advice if you’ve been toying with the idea of adding wax to your toy chest. Explore what wax play is and isn’t, types of wax that are safe to use for this type of play and the variety of ways to go about it!

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
BDSM How To: Wax Play

BDSM How To: Wax Play

A fantastic little how to get started with Wax Play! Important points include candle temperature and what you need to get going with your own scene.

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is the comparison of funishment and punishment. Do you have a term you’d like defined? Let me know.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Video Posts
How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

Having a hard time getting past being angry with your Dominant when you’ve been punished? Mrs. Darling provides some great advice on processing your emotions surrounding corporal punishment.

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

A lovely infographic (huge image with knowledge) for Bondage Beginners.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
What is Aftercare?

What is Aftercare?

Most often we associate this term with the time frame immediately following a ‘scene’. However, this term is equally applicable at many other points and times and many times is not associated with BDSM or D/s at all.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
5 Myths About Dominants You Need To Know

5 Myths About Dominants You Need To Know

There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. Here’s 5 myths you can debunk right now.

6 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

Let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you.

10 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Resources For CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)

Resources For CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)

Some good resources for starting your own Cock and Ball Torture learning.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

I’m going to share the secrets of my success with wearing anal toys for long periods of time–by which I mean anywhere from an hour or two to overnight.

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

I am glad to help reduce the stigma surrounding kink. If you are considering coming out kinky, give this article a read.

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Personal Growth, Relationships
I’m New to BDSM, Where Do I Find Information?

I’m New to BDSM, Where Do I Find Information?

Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

Discovering limits is almost as innocuous and confusing as exploring the kinks and fetishes we do want to play with.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics
Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Blaze put together “50 Shades of Curious” to teach those new into the lifestyle how to practice BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Reviews
BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

I’ll cover the non-play first date and the play on the first date …date.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
What is a Fetish?

What is a Fetish?

We use the term fetish to describe many actions or conditions which appear with relative prevalence within the BDSM communities.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Fifty Shades of Grey, Consent and the Media’s Representation of Kink

Fifty Shades of Grey, Consent and the Media’s Representation of Kink

Unfortunately, the 50 Shades of Grey series is the litmus test that the mainstream media will now use to judge what those of us in the community consider to be a huge part of who we are.

Comments Off Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community
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Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles

There are a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Here’s a short list.

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Beginner Basics, Community
BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

How to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with.

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
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